A male Health And Fitness after-years-of-putting-up-with-my-wifes-drunken-behavior-she-gets-sober-and-6-months-later-she-is-getting-righteous-on-me After years of putting up with my wife's drunken behavior, she gets sober and 6 months later she is getting righteous on me! Relationship & Sex    age 41-50, anonymous writes: I first met my wife in college. I drank once in a blue moon, but not really. If was before I met her, but she told me she was a binge drinker who was hospitalized because she threw up blood from an ulcer after a lot of drinking. When we dated we sort of had a compromise in that I didn’t drink much and so neither did she. She credited me with helping her get straight.Flash forward about 15 years and we both started to drink more. It was a social thing – at parties and clubs. We never stayed home and polished off hard liquor or anything like that. However, I definitely started drinking more than I ever have and she drank more, too. I would call us alcoholics – her especially. She could go days without a drink but once she had one she could not stop and binged until she blacked out. That’s her pattern. She could not have a drink for a long time but give her one and she’d want the bottle. She went to the ER once because she sliced her finger open while cutting a tomato while drunk and more than once she fell or otherwise hurt herself. I never got that bad and I usually helped her get safely into bed but I guess you could call me an enabler.Now we are 25 years in and earlier this year my wife had an episode of bleeding which landed her in the ER. It wasn’t alcohol that caused it, but the alcohol certainly made it worse. She spent a few days in the hospital and quit liquor cold turkey while in. They offered to give her a drug to help but she refused it. I am actually proud of her for being able to do that. It has been 6 months since she had a drink now. Okay, so now my problem. I still drink and so do many of our friends. My wife says she is okay with that and that she doesn’t mind if we drink around her. However, I noticed she cut a lot of friends out of her life. I can understand that. What is causing problems now is that she gets so sanctimonious about not drinking. She complains that I drink too much. She sometimes gets jealous if I have a drink. I realize what she is going through but I feel like after EVERYTHING I put up with for her and her drunken behavior she owes me some slack. I am not NEAR as bad as she was but now she gets sober and I am an impossible drunk? I am trying to cut back on drinking for her and my sake both but I think she’s not being objective. In the back of my mind I feel like she’s made up her mind that she can’t drink anymore or be around it or else it will kill her. I see that. However, after YEARS of putting up with her drunken behavior she gets sober and 6 months later she is getting righteous on me? It makes me angry and it is ruining the relationship. Is there any hope?

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A female reader, Honeypie Health And Fitness after-years-of-putting-up-with-my-wifes-drunken-behavior-she-gets-sober-and-6-months-later-she-is-getting-righteous-on-me After years of putting up with my wife's drunken behavior, she gets sober and 6 months later she is getting righteous on me! Relationship & Sex     + , writes (24 October 2018):

Health And Fitness 98df9f73-904a-4dd9-a948-14179b833b87 After years of putting up with my wife's drunken behavior, she gets sober and 6 months later she is getting righteous on me! Relationship & Sex    You should be a supportive husband and quit the booze.Come on! NO ONE NEEDS to drink to be social!It took her to get hospitalized to quit, and you can’t see that the REASON she has to stay away from alcohol is to stay healthy? You think because you don’t black out, you have control over the alcohol? Because if you do then HELP her stay sober by quitting too.!I don’t drink, because in my 20’s I had issues with black out. After the second one… I don’t like not being in control, you might say. So, I quit drinking. Same with smoking. I would smoke to calm my nerves and then freak out that my skin, hair, clothes, house… smelled like ashtray. So again, I quit.My husband smoked when we met, I never expected him to quit but I DID ask him to not smoke indoors, not in the car and preferable NOT around me when outdoors either. And later, NOT around the kids either. And he (for the most part) did just that. He had a heart attack 5 years ago and thankfully quit smoking, something I’m very glad for and proud off.But I’m also a stubborn ass. You wife might not be as single minded as me.She isn’t being righteous, she is WORRIED about you. and she knows herself and her not so stellar self control around drink.WHY not make the BOTH of your lives better and easier and just quit the drinking?If you can not be social without drinking… what does that tell you?That doesn’t mean you CAN NOT have a beer if you have lunch with a friend and SHE isn’t there. But claiming she is ruining the relationship? Are you serious? YOU almost enabled your wife to DRINK HERSELF to death!!I’m your age, and I really do enjoy MANY social gathering while NOT drinking any alcohol. Because it’s NOT the alcohol that is MY priority, it’s the socializing.You need to take a good hard look at yourself and your attitude.

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A male reader, WiseOwlE Health And Fitness after-years-of-putting-up-with-my-wifes-drunken-behavior-she-gets-sober-and-6-months-later-she-is-getting-righteous-on-me After years of putting up with my wife's drunken behavior, she gets sober and 6 months later she is getting righteous on me! Relationship & Sex     + , writes (24 October 2018):

[EDIT]:Correction:”It must be very tough for her!”P.S.If you’re dieting; it’s tough to stick to your diet when everyone’s binge-eating and snacking around you!

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A male reader, WiseOwlE Health And Fitness after-years-of-putting-up-with-my-wifes-drunken-behavior-she-gets-sober-and-6-months-later-she-is-getting-righteous-on-me After years of putting up with my wife's drunken behavior, she gets sober and 6 months later she is getting righteous on me! Relationship & Sex     + , writes (24 October 2018):

She’s not being sanctimonious; she has come to terms with the fact that too much drinking is ruining her life, and yours!You’re trying to cut-back? That’s admitting you drink too much; and it’s not helping either of you, to come-down on her for trying to help the both of you.You’re the one who’s wrong, sir! Drinking is a problem in your marriage. An alcoholic usually needs rehabilitation and counseling to come to terms with their drinking problem; and then to control it. Your resistance and resentment is proving you need help more than you care to admit.It’s not about your putting up with her; she’s trying to stop the drinking around her, so she won’t relapse. She still needs AA counseling, and so do you! She wants what’s best for you, now that she’s seen the light!I commend her for her six months of sobriety! It must be very touch for her!If you throw it back in her face, what does that say about you?

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