A female Health And Fitness are-my-expectations-too-high-for-my-long-distance-boyfriend Are my expectations too high for my long distance boyfriend? Relationship & Sex    age 30-35, anonymous writes:

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Our LDR has been rocky the past few months. He’s neglecting abd taking for granted our relationship.

Today is my birthday. I spent the entire morning in Urgent Care because I had extremely bad stomach and back pains in the middle of the night, and even saw blood in my urine. I had messaged him, hoping he’d talk to me, but received no responde until the afternoon, when he woke up. He had a few minutes to chat to see how I was and wished me happy birthday. Then nothing all day long.After waiting for a few hours, I finally decided to call him, he didn’t answer his phone. He called me back an hour later asking what I wanted. I began to get upset, asking why it never occured to him to spend some time with me to share a meal and watch a video or two over the internet to celebrate my birthday. He then got upset and said OK Fine just tell me what you want to do. I said he should be the one to plan it. Then he said OK, let’s meet online for a meal and watch a few videos. He said 11pm.. he will be there and be on time. Well, 11pm comes around and he says he will be late, he changed it to 11:30pm. I said forget it. Am I being too harsh? My expectations too high? I expected that since I’d gone thru such a rough morning and today being my birthday, he would put some heart into it and asked me to join him online for dinner and a video. That if he planned a certain time, and there really isn’t anything preventing him from meeting his set time – 11pm.. he will be there and be ready. But not only did he not initiate the request for us to spend time together, he was late and his response was “What’s the big deal? I’m only 30mins late. You can wait”

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (11 October 2018):

You have questioned this relationship on here before. You are wasting your time with this relationship, it is going nowhere. Why don’t you want a man who is there in person for you? Why have you both not decided to live together and to continue this strange relationship?Sorry I just don’t get it

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A female reader, Honeypie Health And Fitness are-my-expectations-too-high-for-my-long-distance-boyfriend Are my expectations too high for my long distance boyfriend? Relationship & Sex     + , writes (11 October 2018):

Health And Fitness are-my-expectations-too-high-for-my-long-distance-boyfriend Are my expectations too high for my long distance boyfriend? Relationship & Sex    I agree with Auntie BimBim, it’s time to rethink this relationship.For one, a LDR is RARELY a good idea. The complications from the LACK of spending time together, the lack of intimacy (not necessarily sex), the problem with communications and figuring out WHAT the other person is really saying/meaning.How long have you been together? If it’s more than a year, why is it STILL an LDR? Are there plans to make it a non LD?When did he start to neglect the relationship? Have you talked about that? Brought it up?To me, (from the little you write) it doesn’t sound like he is ALL that interested in a LDR with you any more, maybe the “novelty” has worn off.Watching videos with someone else online isn’t for me, I’d rather Skype/Facetime/talk if we aren’t in the same location. So maybe, he doesn’t REALLLLLLY see the point in watching cat-videos with you online (or whatever videos) as a way to feel close. I think the whole postponing the online “hang out” by 30 minutes is more about control and contempt on his end. I can’t imagine ANY guy being SO DENSE that he doesn’t know that telling his GF:”What’s the big deal? I’m only 30mins late. You can wait” is hurtful and a slap in the face.So I think it was MEANT to be hurtful. Maybe he is looking for a way out?I think you NEED to have a SIT DOWN with him either OVER Skype/Facetime and TALK about what’s going on. He isn’t a mind reader and neither are you. But before you have this talk, you NEED to decide if this LDR is at ALL fulfilling and if it has ANY kind of future.

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A female reader, Aunty BimBim Health And Fitness are-my-expectations-too-high-for-my-long-distance-boyfriend-1 Are my expectations too high for my long distance boyfriend? Relationship & Sex     + , writes (11 October 2018):

Health And Fitness 49f157e9-364f-4a56-bc91-249c21db156e Are my expectations too high for my long distance boyfriend? Relationship & Sex    to continue from my answer below, list everything good about the relationship and everything not so good and then decide if you will continue or break up and find somebody in the flesh and closer to home.

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A female reader, Aunty BimBim Health And Fitness are-my-expectations-too-high-for-my-long-distance-boyfriend-1 Are my expectations too high for my long distance boyfriend? Relationship & Sex     + , writes (11 October 2018):

Health And Fitness 49f157e9-364f-4a56-bc91-249c21db156e Are my expectations too high for my long distance boyfriend? Relationship & Sex    I feel it might be a good time for you to seriously consider if this relationship is working.Sometimes we need to see things in black and white so I’m suggesting a sheet of paper with two columns, at the top of one write “FOR” and label the other “AGAINST”

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