A female Health And Fitness boyfriend-buys-another-woman-a-puppy Boyfriend buys another woman a puppy Relationship & Sex    age 51-59, *razedRedHead writes:

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My boyfriend of five years ordered an unborn pedigree puppy for a female friend. She walks his dog when he is at work. During the time he sought out, and checked out breeders, I told him that I found this to be a highly inappropriate gift. During the three weeks of searching, I repeated my feelings. He said the gift was in exchange for dog walking. I said just pay her. I feel puppies are a romantic gift. He told me that her boyfriend liked the idea, so it was alright. I guess he didn’t want to pay $1200 for a dog. This man has never spent that kind of money on all the gifts combined that I have received. Headstrong, and not letting a woman tell him what to do, he did it anyway. And he is quite pleased with himself. I cannot trust my future, or blended finances with him. I am calling off our relationship. He is baffled, all because of a dog? I think this is deeper than a dog, I feel it is disrespect. Thoughts anyone?

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A male reader, Fatherly Advice Health And Fitness boyfriend-buys-another-woman-a-puppy Boyfriend buys another woman a puppy Relationship & Sex     + , writes (26 December 2018):

Health And Fitness boyfriend-buys-another-woman-a-puppy Boyfriend buys another woman a puppy Relationship & Sex    This line from your original post troubles me quite q bit: “Headstrong, and not letting a woman tell him what to do, he did it anyway.” You sound like a teacher or mother of a teenager. If your man is similar in age to you, he will not do what you or anyone else tells him to do. He will do what he has determined is the right thing to do.You feel he does not “respect” you. Would it not be more true to say that he does not “obey” you? He will not respect you while you continue to force your will upon him.As far as breaking up the relationship, yes it is high time you did this. You are obviously permanently incompatible.

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A female reader, Honeypie Health And Fitness boyfriend-buys-another-woman-a-puppy Boyfriend buys another woman a puppy Relationship & Sex     + , writes (25 December 2018):

Health And Fitness 98df9f73-904a-4dd9-a948-14179b833b87 Boyfriend buys another woman a puppy Relationship & Sex    Welcome back CMMP! Good to see you on again :)OP, if you feel this is inappropriate, then you are within your right to end it as you did, but DO NOT use this as a tactics to see if he will “obey” your wish.Just be done, if this is a deal breaker for you.What he CHOOSES to spend his money on, and it IS his money, is up to him. You aren’t married and do not share finances.What I find strange is that he goes above and beyond for this female friend. $1,200 puppy is not a small gift. If she hasn’t ASKED MONEY for walking his dog, why does he feel he owed her THAT expensive a gift?Now IF she has his dog 5 days a week while he is at work… it might not seem like an extravagant amount. Some dog sitters charge $10-50 an hour, so 1,200 would be roughly $50 for a full day/5 days a week for about a year.Is a puppy romantic? I don’t know. I can see a GOOD friend gifting a puppy to another friend with out it being a romantic gift. If you BF had a history of spoiling this one woman friend I can see how you might feel there is more to it. Sounds to me like he wanted to be generous and took it a tad over the top (unless 1,200 is a grab in his pocket).But here is the thing, you felt disrespected and called the relationship off, so it’s time to cut him out of your life and work on moving on.

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A male reader, CMMP Health And Fitness boyfriend-buys-another-woman-a-puppy Boyfriend buys another woman a puppy Relationship & Sex     + , writes (25 December 2018):

You have the right to end your relationship for whatever reason you want. Was it a good call? Hard to say. If he had no romantic feelings for her whatsoever and there appears to be a somewhat equal exchange of goods then maybe you were the stubborn one.If not then maybe you did the right thing, but it’s ultimately your call.

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