My boyfriend of 10 months has been staying away from me for a few weeks now after we had this fight. It was over the matter regarding my promotion and i was talking to him about it and got carried away talking about the promotion related other stuff (my salary increment and tax and salary after tax being paid) when suddenly he said that ‘haven’t i told you not to talk to me about that’. I was really upset. He had told me not to talknto him about my promotion because he says i get carried away and we start to argue. But at that moment we didn’t and i felt really disappointed and hurt. I said sorry and hang up the phone. Later he called me twice and i didn’t answer bacause i was crying and didn’t want to talk to him. He was the first person i told the news so… Later he didn’t call me and i was hurt when he disnt even try to talk to me. I got no reaponse no matter how much i texted or called. He just ignored. So i said some hurtful things to him. About breaking the promises and how bad he was to me. But nothing made him respond. Whole week i cried and cried but nothing. I wanted to breakup but i couldn’t. He was hurt too because eventhough he didn’t respond i knew he read the texts and heard me. He talked to me after a week and we patched up but he wasnt the same again. He kept his distance from me. He said he need space and time and i gave him. And it went on like 4 5 days he called me when he had some office rwlated or work related matter to discuss. After that i said enough and i startes tezting him as usual but it is haed for me when he acts so cold and emotionless. No loving texts. No love yous. No good morning mesaage with love just GM and at night just GN. I tried bwing loving and thinking maybe he is still hurt but it has been 3 weeks since. Recently he said that he won’t marry me unless he knows that we can live together nicely.he had promised me to marry me. It was like a stab to my heart but I didn’t show it. But we didn’t actually fight. I said hurtful things but he said nothing. And his no response made me worse. I told him that if he doesn’t do that nezt time we will be fine. I’m kind of more emotional person. I can’t help the way i feel and i just can’t stop it eventhough i want to. But he says i need to be strong and i have to face things by myself without getting angry because he doesn’t have time to be with me when I’m sad or upset. He talks and texts mw now but i get the cold shoulder. It’s just like I’m talking to a not so close colleague. Whenever i say i love you he says ok or yep or something like that. It hurts me. And i keep doing it because i don’t want to lose him. And he is a really nice person. He respects me and encouragez me but he doesn’t seem toblove me anymore. What should i do
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A female reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (8 January 2019):
Just cut him loose OPHe isn’t the FUTURE for you. Can you imagine marrying this guy and then not being ALLOWED to talk about certain subjects?He is manipulative and cold. Unless you do as HE wants you to… he will withhold “love” or affection or interest in you.While I understand that people don’t want to hear negative stuff or someone go ON AND ON AND ON about drama at work or what not, it would have sufficed to let you know that he rather talk about something else.This is NOT how you LOVE someone. Him being this way kind of shows that he rather CONTROL you than love and support you…Sorry, I’d dump this asshat asap.
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