Me and my bf of three years had a bad fight tonight and he is not talking to me, i stay in his house. He is terribly druck after fight , fell in the bathroom, refused to take my help asked me to get out. I did leave him there, didn’t know what else to do. I’m scared for him and for us. It looks like this might be the end of us, i really do like him but I said few things he didn’t like . He is terribly upset about it.I am planning to crash on my friends place tomorrow night to give him.some space. Pls help me how to make this relationship work. I was terribly sorry for what I said, but I don’t think he wants to listen it.Pls help
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A female reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (31 October 2018):
If he is in his 30’s like you and can go out without getting THIS drunk, then he has issues with alcohol and that isn’t likely to change – whether you give him space or not.ONLY he can make that choice to seek help and get totally sober.How do you really see this relationship moving on? You have JUST seen him at a LOW LOW point, and at this low point he wants nothing to do with you. What is there to fix? You two might have had a fight, said some nasty words, but HE CHOSE to drink himself silly, fall in the bathroom and act like you mean nothing to him.Give him space is fine, but the thing with relationships is to MAKE them work you BOTH have to be willing to put in some effort, to put in the work, to talk, compromise and respect each other. Is that even happening here?Take the time away from him to figure out if there is something to salvage here or not. Ans remember you CAN NOT fix a relationship all on your own or have a relationship that is one-sided. It just doesn’t work.
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