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My fiancee and I would like to get married in a church, however neither of us are religious. Does anyone have any thoughts or advice on this? Neither of our families are religious either. We have come across many churches locally and while traveling and have fallen in love with the look. But we also want to be respectful so I am not sure if it is the right choice. Does anyone (perhaps religious) have any advice or opinion? Would it look weird to others or would they not care? Thank you.

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A female reader, Youcannotbeserious Health And Fitness can-we-get-married-in-a-church-if-neither-of-us-are-religious-1 Can we get married in a church if neither of us are religious? Relationship & Sex     + , writes (18 January 2019):

Health And Fitness can-we-get-married-in-a-church-if-neither-of-us-are-religious Can we get married in a church if neither of us are religious? Relationship & Sex    Depending on the religion, most clergy will want to interview you and your future husband, ask if you attend Sunday services, ask whether you intend to raise your children in their faith. It is not just a case of turning up, getting married and walking away. A church is a place in which people worship their god, whichever one that might be. It is a place which is sacred to the congregation. It is not a place to be hired out to someone because they fancy the look of it. Have you considered a castle as an alternative venue (no religious beliefs necessary) or a stately home? Both types of buildings can be magnificent and usually have fantastic grounds for the wedding photographs.

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A female reader, janniepeg Health And Fitness can-we-get-married-in-a-church-if-neither-of-us-are-religious-2 Can we get married in a church if neither of us are religious? Relationship & Sex     + , writes (18 January 2019):

Health And Fitness can-we-get-married-in-a-church-if-neither-of-us-are-religious-1 Can we get married in a church if neither of us are religious? Relationship & Sex    I am sure the only church that lets outsiders rent their space is the universalist church. It won’t have the grand look of a cathedral, but you will be able to exchange vows in a spiritual way without having to believe in the bible. For catholic churches, the priest requires you to convert and go through all the process starting from baptism to confirmation.

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A female reader, Tisha-1 Health And Fitness can-we-get-married-in-a-church-if-neither-of-us-are-religious Can we get married in a church if neither of us are religious? Relationship & Sex     + , writes (17 January 2019):

Health And Fitness can-we-get-married-in-a-church-if-neither-of-us-are-religious-2 Can we get married in a church if neither of us are religious? Relationship & Sex    You like the “look” of a church, is that the high ceilings and stained glass windows with a cathedral type feel?Or the elegant simple lines of a Quaker meeting house? If it’s just a decoration issue, I’m sure you can find a venue that fulfills your personal vision.If there is a specific church, go in and speak to them.If this about getting a certain feel for your nuptials, then find the secular venues that give you the feeling you want.

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A female reader, Tisha-1 Health And Fitness can-we-get-married-in-a-church-if-neither-of-us-are-religious Can we get married in a church if neither of us are religious? Relationship & Sex     + , writes (17 January 2019):

Health And Fitness can-we-get-married-in-a-church-if-neither-of-us-are-religious-2 Can we get married in a church if neither of us are religious? Relationship & Sex    You like the “look” of a church, is that the high ceilings and stained glass windows with a cathedral type feel?Or the elegant simple lines of a Quaker meeting house? If it’s just a decoration issue, I’m sure you can find a venue that fulfills your personal vision.If there is a specific church, go in and speak to them.If this about getting a certain feel for your nuptials, then find the secular venues that give you the feeling you want.

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A male reader, WiseOwlE Health And Fitness can-we-get-married-in-a-church-if-neither-of-us-are-religious Can we get married in a church if neither of us are religious? Relationship & Sex     + , writes (17 January 2019):

Marrying in a church is paying homage to the Lord. You are seeking His blessing by officiating and sanctifying your nuptials through an ordained minister of the church. You don’t have to be religious. If you just like an alter and stained-glass; you should look for a nondenominational chapel. I think you should at least talk to the priest, pastor, or minister of the church; and explain why you want to use his or her church. Being totally honest, most people marry in a church; with no true ties or relationship with God. You wouldn’t be any worse than some self-righteous hypocritical religious-zealot! At least you’re honest and have some conviction about it. I would call that respectful; but what God thinks is what truly matters.Consider showing God some respect. A church is a place of worship; and not used for “aesthetics and theatrical-effect.” If you still feel some ties to some form of belief and worship; then renew them at some point. If you’re going to use God’s House, at least acknowledge your Host. He is loving and forgiving; all He wants is your love and respect.If you have a relationship with God, no matter how small; it would be okay. You don’t have to be “religious;” but don’t play around with such things.

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A male reader, Code Warrior Health And Fitness can-we-get-married-in-a-church-if-neither-of-us-are-religious Can we get married in a church if neither of us are religious? Relationship & Sex     + , writes (17 January 2019):

Health And Fitness 64af5b46-d671-4ef9-9508-1ea53e6e59c9 Can we get married in a church if neither of us are religious? Relationship & Sex    A church is not a rental hall, it’s a place of worship. I seriously doubt any church would grant you permission to use it for a civil ceremony. A religious wedding ceremony is a rite of passage based on that religion’s belief system and there are typically a lot of religious prerequistes required before the rite (not right) of marriage can be even be contemplated.For example, Christian religions, at a minimum, will require that each person be baptized. Catholics also need to recieve other sacraments before they could be married in the church. These rites of passage are not trivial matters as far as the religions are concerned.Frankly, a request such as yours would be highly disrespectful to their beliefs. You view the church as a pretty building, they view the church as the house of God and it was built to be beautiful in order to give glory and praise to God. I can’t imagine anything more offensive to them than to treat their church as just another pretty building you’d like to use.

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A female reader, Honeypie Health And Fitness can-we-get-married-in-a-church-if-neither-of-us-are-religious Can we get married in a church if neither of us are religious? Relationship & Sex     + , writes (17 January 2019):

Health And Fitness 98df9f73-904a-4dd9-a948-14179b833b87 Can we get married in a church if neither of us are religious? Relationship & Sex    I’m sorry I think you are being thoughtless, disrespectful, oblivious, callous and inconsiderate here.I’m NOT religious, but I DO have a fair bit of respect for those who are. I have friends who believe and worship, GOOD people.What you WANT is to USE a church (a group of people’s PLACE OF WORSHIP as a PROP for your wedding.) No, just no.Do you UNDERSTAND the wedding ceremony differences in a church versus justice of the peace?In a CHURCH with a PRIEST you PROMISE UNTO GOD to take the vows to heart, to take it serious. The marriage vows are spoken before God and in front of your family and friends. Along with the vows, you will make ‘Declarations’, which confirm that you will always love and care for each other in a way that will please God.So if you are a non-believer how serious is your vow, is it all for show too?I just don’t think it’s appropriate AT ALL. I’m not saying that ALL you can have is a drive-through wedding in Vegas, but I think it’s just a TOTAL no-go to want to use a church as a prop.Instead WHY not FIND a venue that might not be the same “LOOK” but is something that speaks to the TWO of you? https://www.brides.com/gallery/romantic-wedding-venues-in-the-usBut THAT is just MY personal opinion.Why not, if you still want to go for a “look” for your wedding with a church, then WHY not first FIND a church and TALK to the priest/pastor? see what HE/SHE thinks?

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