Ok so i am a junior in high school and have been hanging out with a girl who is a second year student at the local college. She i a great girl and way different than high school girls i have dated. We have been having one on one dates as she has her own car. Nothing has been said about dating exclusively but she has no bf and i am not with any other girl so it feels exclusive. We both like to dance and she loves to dance. We have been to clubs twice and to a bunch of parties. She wears me out on the dance floor so she dances with other boys also. What i want to ask is it just a normal thing to do with your dance partner to have the guys hands touching her behind and kind or rubbing up the back of her thighs pushing her skirt higher? She lets me do this but she also lets other dudes push very high up her thighs and not stop them. During slo songs i have seen others kissing her open mouth like we do. Am i just being jealous and petty? Or is it all just part of dancing?
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A female reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (20 March 2019):
No it’s NOT part of dancing per se. It’s HOW she enjoys dancing. I think it makes her feel attractive to have guys (not just you) be all over her and wanting her. If you look around at the club or at parties I’m sure you will see PLENTY of girls NOT getting groped on the dance floor.Ever tried Salsa? It’s VERY close quarters but it’s more about moving as one, than groping and making out on the floor. The better you are “matched” with your dance partner the better you sync and the more fluid it looks and feels. IT can feel rather intimate but not like you describe.You two aren’t exclusive, which might be good… as she seems to want attention from others guys too. I think she sees things with you as VERY casual.Have you asked her why she does it? Without being over the top dramatic? Maybe for her, this is just HOW she enjoys dancing.
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A male reader, N91 + ♥, writes (20 March 2019):
If a girl wants you to touch her like that she will allow you to. If she doesn’t want to then what you’re doing is sexual harassment. Trying this with random girls that you don’t know could land you in some hot water. If she is openly kissing other guys in front of you then I don’t think she’s very serious about where things are heading between you guys.
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