I’ve been dating a guy for 6 months- it’s had it’s ups and downs- mainly as it started as a friendship with absolutely no sexual attraction on my behalf . I’ve never looked at him and thought ‘god your handsome’ but he has a lovely personality which outshone the looks for me. Lately things haven’t been too great between us due to work commitments and not being able to spend much time together. It’s been causing bickers and arguments. Anyway I met with him last week and he arrived with a new look- brightly yellow dyed hair from his usual dark brown hair . It looks very very silly as he has dark freckles, a dark beared and dark eyebrows. Instantly I felt totally turned off and uncomfortable. I could barely look at him let alone kiss him/ be intimate. I’ve tried to get used to it but I just feel like the attraction has totally gone for me. It doesn’t help that people are laughing at him and mocking as they think it’s some silly joke for charity- and not that he’s being serious. I feel a little bit let down and heartbroken- I tried to positively discuss that I found him attractive whilst he was natural and that I was struggling now with his new yellow look. It caused a huge argument resulting in us ending the relationship. I feel so upset, my stomachs in knots as I do have feelings for him but I can’t stop looking at the latest photos with him and feeling turned off/embarrassed and cringing. He’s saying he likes the hair and that I should learn to live with it! What should I do? Try and get over that now any attraction has totally gone or cut my losses. Help!
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A female reader, Youcannotbeserious + ♥, writes (9 March 2019):
Honestly? You should let this “lovely” guy go so he can find someone who loves him as he is – regardless of whether he has brown, yellow, pink, red or any other coloured hair. Neither of you is right or wrong in this. You are both just different. If you REALLY loved him, the outrageous hair colour would not matter. Don’t “settle”. Find someone you feel that connection with – and let him find the same. It is what you deserve.
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