A female Health And Fitness he-has-a-crush-on-me-but-then-why-isnt-he-acting-on-it He has a crush on me but then why isn't he acting on it? Relationship & Sex    age 26-29, anonymous writes:

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I am recently single…I was in a relationship with someone for 2 years and it ended 2 months back.

During the course of the relationship we frequented this bar and we were always together,drinking, kissing ..so basically everyone in that bar who saw us knew that we were a couple including the manager.Close to the end of the relationship i noticed , so did my ex that the manager had a huge crush on me.When the relationship ended, i continued going back to the bar , alone , because i dont mind my own company.Now that the relationship is over, for different reasons, i have developed a huge crush on this manager, though i am reluctant to act on it…maybe because even when he has made it obvious that he likes me, he hasn’t made any moves on me…he has inquired about my ex…i told him we were fighting…why does he have a crush on me and yet his not acting on it?Anyway even me i dont know what i would do if he made his feelings known, but i wouldn’t mind him as a friend cause his a pretty good guy..but these unspoken feelings make it difficult to be friends…because every time we meet we pretty much act like idiots…and plus the bar he manages is pretty pleasant that i wouldn’t want to stop going there.

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A female reader, Honeypie Health And Fitness he-has-a-crush-on-me-but-then-why-isnt-he-acting-on-it-1 He has a crush on me but then why isn't he acting on it? Relationship & Sex     + , writes (14 March 2019):

Health And Fitness he-has-a-crush-on-me-but-then-why-isnt-he-acting-on-it He has a crush on me but then why isn't he acting on it? Relationship & Sex    I agree that it CAN be professionalism. It can also be that HE isn’t single himself. Or that he flirts with a lot of female patrons JUST for the fun of it. OE hw is unsure on just how SINGLE you are and whether you are OVER the guy you were dating.IF you told him you were “fighting” with your now ex, when he inquired about my ex, he might think you two (you and your now ex) are taking a break and HE doesn’t want to get in the middle of drama or two people’s relationship problems. Like Cindy stated, fighting is NOT the same as being SINGLE.You also say that you would like to be FRIENDS with him… So why not just get to know him better and talk to him when you are there? It seems like you WANT him to ask you out to STROKE your ego now that you are single. AS you STATE you are just looking to be FRIENDS.Why not just take a little while and ENJOY being single, work on getting over your ex and setting some new goals for YOUR future? It’s only been 2 months after all.

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A female reader, CindyCares Health And Fitness he-has-a-crush-on-me-but-then-why-isnt-he-acting-on-it-2 He has a crush on me but then why isn't he acting on it? Relationship & Sex     + , writes (14 March 2019):

Health And Fitness he-has-a-crush-on-me-but-then-why-isnt-he-acting-on-it-1 He has a crush on me but then why isn't he acting on it? Relationship & Sex    I agree with Chigirl. Maybe it’s the type of establishment where the staff is not supposed to hit on customers- ( and hitting on customers is not very professional anyway, although I am aware that this is a kind of rule which is often being disregarded, since, in the good old days when men used to hit on me quite frequently, I have been asked for my number by waiters, bartenders, bank clerks, store managers,cab drivers …. you name it ). Plus, he saw you coming to the bar with your bf, he asked you about him, you said ” we are fighting “. Well, that’s not a very clear answer , it ‘s not a green light ; ” we are fighting ” or ” we are having problems ” is not the same as ” I am single ” or ” we broke up for good “. Maybe he wants to play it safe and won’t make a move if he does not know for sure that you are free and single. Alas, there is also the possibility that you got it wrong, and that you read as ” a crush ” what is normal ” bar people ” behaviour. Most of them are flirty and prodigal with compliments, it’s good for the business.I think you will have to take the initiative and sound him out . If you read him right, he won’t let his chance pass him by. If you read him wrong- so be it . No big deal ; and no need for you to stop patronizing that bar. He surely would not change job if he asked a customer out and were rejected !

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A female reader, chigirl Health And Fitness he-has-a-crush-on-me-but-then-why-isnt-he-acting-on-it-3 He has a crush on me but then why isn't he acting on it? Relationship & Sex     + , writes (14 March 2019):

Health And Fitness he-has-a-crush-on-me-but-then-why-isnt-he-acting-on-it-2 He has a crush on me but then why isn't he acting on it? Relationship & Sex    Because he is a professional and he is at work when you meet him at the bar. That is my guess. You should be the one to make the first move, or you will have to find a way to meet him outside of work. Also, you might have just imagined it.

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