A female Health And Fitness he-has-been-texting-someone-he-met-in-a-dating-site He has been texting someone he met in a dating site Relationship & Sex    age 26-29, anonymous writes:

The Fat Decimator System

I’ve been with my Other Half (OH) for 2 years and have really felt as though he is the one. I’ve trusted him completely and yet the other day, when I silenced an alarm on his phone, I see Facebook messages between him and another woman that he always ‘just goes for coffee With. I know they met on a dating site so he clearly liked the look of her anyway but said that she wasn’t for him, and didn’t continue with any more dates or a relationship.

Then the night before a big holiday, he took me out for my birthday meal and he started texting this woman at the table. I didn’t know it was her but I was annoyed that he was texting someone else anyway. So when I silenced the alarm on his phone the next day and see that he has been talking to her saying that he can guarantee that we won’t last and how he would have rather spent that previous evening with her rather than me because I am boring… he sent her a picture of me asleep next to him in bed saying that I’m boring and asked her for a picture.I feel so betrayed. I have felt awful about this and yet continued to go on holiday that we had planned to see if it would help us sort things out but yet he was still very disrespectful even though in the dog house! He says it isn’t cheating and I need to ask myself why he has been saying this to her… I feel as though it is emotionally cheating as he would rather be spending his time with her than me and I feel as though there is no loyalty. Trust has been broken and there is no excuse to speak with anyone like that…. so why should I be blaming myself? I work 1.5 times longer each day than he does, I cook, I clean, I let him do whatever he wants to do and I fit in and around his life when convenient for him. I do not feel respected nor do I feel a priority and yet I still want it to work.What do I do to get over this?Thank you x

View related questions: facebook, on holiday, text

<– Rate this Question

Reply to this Question

Share

Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question!

A male reader, WiseOwlE Health And Fitness he-has-been-texting-someone-he-met-in-a-dating-site-1 He has been texting someone he met in a dating site Relationship & Sex     + , writes (18 November 2018):

I suspect you’ve seen signs of deterioration in your relationship for a long-time. There has to be long-standing unresolved-issues between you.You say he’s emotionally-cheating?!! Seriously?!! You’re in denial. You pretend nothing is happening, hoping it will all go-away! Thinking nagging and arguing will straighten him out. He uses the old predictable cliche moves. Pretend you’re out of your mind, and deny everything!He’s already declaring to another woman how bored he is with your relationship. He doesn’t even bother to delete his messages, knowing you have access to his phone message history.Just the fact you didn’t have his clothes packed and waiting in garbage bags and suitcases after you read those messages; is an indication you look the other-way, because you refuse to let-go. Thus he openly displays his disrespect and insults your intelligence; hoping you’d just end it. He knows if he tried to leave, you’d go into an emotional-crisis; and be totally clingy and resistant. You think being pliable and submissive will please him. Just the opposite! He’s doing everything he can to shake you loose! You’re clinging-on in desperation; so you have to be the one to breakup. He anticipates backlash, theatrics, and drama he’s not ready for; so he’s using the “toxic-boyfriend” strategy. BTW, he knows you check his phone. He hopes you are! He’s using psychological-warfare, and blatantly texts someone else in your presence. Every move he makes says he’s cheating; but he adamantly denies it to your face. Yet you still refuse to let him go.He’s going to pound you emotionally until you just give-up!His behavior is meant to slowly erode the relationship. Until it just dries-up, shrivels, and falls-off like a skin-tag.So, just give-up!

<– Rate this answer

A female reader, Honeypie Health And Fitness he-has-been-texting-someone-he-met-in-a-dating-site-1 He has been texting someone he met in a dating site Relationship & Sex     + , writes (18 November 2018):

Health And Fitness he-has-been-texting-someone-he-met-in-a-dating-site He has been texting someone he met in a dating site Relationship & Sex    BIG fat EDIT:YOU should blame yourself for his behavior.SHOULD have been..YOU shouldn’t blame yourself for his behavior. Of course you shouldn’t blame yourself or let him blame you for his messed up treatment of you!~

<– Rate this answer

………………………….   

A male reader, Code Warrior Health And Fitness he-has-been-texting-someone-he-met-in-a-dating-site-1 He has been texting someone he met in a dating site Relationship & Sex     + , writes (18 November 2018):

Health And Fitness he-has-been-texting-someone-he-met-in-a-dating-site-1 He has been texting someone he met in a dating site Relationship & Sex    What you do is terminate the relationship. Never tolerate disrespect. Don’t make a big scene. Just calmly tell him you’re breaking up with him and end the conversation there. If he apologizes just tell him he no longer matters to you.

<– Rate this answer

………………………….   

A female reader, Honeypie Health And Fitness he-has-been-texting-someone-he-met-in-a-dating-site-1 He has been texting someone he met in a dating site Relationship & Sex     + , writes (18 November 2018):

Health And Fitness he-has-been-texting-someone-he-met-in-a-dating-site He has been texting someone he met in a dating site Relationship & Sex    Just cut him lose, OP!Why on Earth are you still with a man who is THIS disrespectful to you?So what that he hasn’t PHYSICALLY cheated on you? He WANTS to! She (or any other chick) just haven’t said yes yet!YOU should blame yourself for his behavior.If you DO want to blame yourself for anything… it should be for still sticking around with this guy. HE is NOT a good partner. This is not how a LOVING and CARING partner act.Seriously? He is sending HER pictures of you to mock you? WTF! What kind of man does that? And what kind of woman (her) is still talking to her after he sends her those?They DO deserve each other… and YOU, dear OP deserve someone SO MUCH better than the piece of crap you are with.If he lives with you – KICK him out! If you live with him, pack up your stuff and move out. ASAP. If you can’t move pack to your parents temporarily, then look for a room mate situation and get out of there ASAP.

<– Rate this answer

………………………….   

A female reader, MissKin Health And Fitness he-has-been-texting-someone-he-met-in-a-dating-site He has been texting someone he met in a dating site Relationship & Sex     + , writes (18 November 2018):

Health And Fitness 4f7f2108-df65-4612-b246-f43aadd8ec2d He has been texting someone he met in a dating site Relationship & Sex    You’re not respected because you’re not demanding respect. The very fact that you “let him do whatever he wants” and “fit in around his life” is a sign that you don’t even respect yourself. You are worth more. Leave him and do not look back necause he will never treat you better than he does. How dare he talk about you like that!No one will ever treat you better than you treat yourself so set your standards high and accept nothing less. He is cheating emotionally but that is the least of your worries. Look at what he said about you, why would you stick around?Find someone who treats u better!

<– Rate this answer

………………………….   

A female reader, Youcannotbeserious Health And Fitness he-has-been-texting-someone-he-met-in-a-dating-site He has been texting someone he met in a dating site Relationship & Sex     + , writes (18 November 2018):

Health And Fitness cb00d1ef-0a14-495d-ae29-55bd6b6b2f04 He has been texting someone he met in a dating site Relationship & Sex    What do you do? You kick his selfish cheating ar$e out the door and find yourself someone who respects and loves you, but this guy sure as hell does neither. Why would you even want to be with him when he is just keeping you on a back burner while something “better” turns up.Walk away with your head high, because you deserve so much better.

<– Rate this answer

………………………….   

A female reader, Ivyblue Health And Fitness au He has been texting someone he met in a dating site Relationship & Sex     + , writes (18 November 2018):

Health And Fitness 4ce60418-664b-499c-9092-aa5f0356724a He has been texting someone he met in a dating site Relationship & Sex    Cheating or not, honey his utter disrespect is out of this world. What I think you need to work on is your self esteem to know that you deserve better than this. Clearly he is no longer into you. It IS cheating, emotional cheating. IMHO worse than the act. Square pegs will never fit into round holes. My advice walk away with dignity and leave him to do as he pleases. Getting over it is getting away from it and him. You cant heal when you live with the virus you just get sicker.

<– Rate this answer

………………………….   

The 2 Week Diet