A female Health And Fitness hes-extremely-possessive-and-mentally-abusive-but-i-still-love-him-advice-please He's extremely possessive and mentally abusive but I still love him. Advice please!! Relationship & Sex    age 30-35, anonymous writes:

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Hi. I am new to this so very nervous. I really need some advice about my partner. I have been with him for just over a year and I feel like I can’t do anything right.

He mentally abuses me constantly..well this is what I’m guessing it is?! He will tell me everyday that I don’t give a shit about him and I don’t put any effort into the relationship. Saying constantly “just tell me, you don’t want to be with me do you?” He tried to make me choose between him and my job and when I refused he told me it was because I didn’t care about him! He tells me I’m cheating if I go to my friends,making me feel guilty as my time should be with him! ( I spend all my spare time with him to avoid an argument) every time he texts me, I try to word things right so not to upset him but what ever I write, is wrong! And again I am accused of not putting effort in or not wanting to be with him! He uses sex against me…that if I refuse it’s clear to him that I don’t want him! I’m crying writing this as can see how ridiculous it all sounds…why would anyone need advice on this! If this was one of my friends I know exactly what I would say…but I do actually love him. Help! Any advice would be great!!!

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A female reader, mystiquek Health And Fitness hes-extremely-possessive-and-mentally-abusive-but-i-still-love-him-advice-please-1 He's extremely possessive and mentally abusive but I still love him. Advice please!! Relationship & Sex     + , writes (13 November 2018):

Health And Fitness hes-extremely-possessive-and-mentally-abusive-but-i-still-love-him-advice-please He's extremely possessive and mentally abusive but I still love him. Advice please!! Relationship & Sex    You are with a man that is a controller. He wants to control every part of you and your life, get you to the point where you will be totally dependent on him. DO NOT LET THIS HAPPEN! He is also being abusive and the odds are it will get worse as time goes on. Ask yourself this…if your sister/daughter/friend came to you and told you what you are telling us, what would you tell them? You’d tell them to get away wouldn’t you? I hope that you would. Love yourself enough to know when to walk away my dear. The sooner the better. Sometimes we love the wrong people it happens but you don’t have to stay in a bad relationship and this one is bad and will get worse if you allow it to. Get out.

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A female reader, Honeypie Health And Fitness hes-extremely-possessive-and-mentally-abusive-but-i-still-love-him-advice-please-1 He's extremely possessive and mentally abusive but I still love him. Advice please!! Relationship & Sex     + , writes (13 November 2018):

Health And Fitness hes-extremely-possessive-and-mentally-abusive-but-i-still-love-him-advice-please-1 He's extremely possessive and mentally abusive but I still love him. Advice please!! Relationship & Sex    Good GRIEF, woman!What exactly do you love about him?!Misery likes company, HE is misery. Does mean HE is miserable. No, he quite ENJOYS making YOU miserable.He is trying to isolate you. First from your job (so you would be TOTALLY dependent on him) and now from your friends. And you didn’t play into it with your job, so WHY are you doing it with your friends? You say you spend ALL your free time with him, because you don’t want to upset him. Or have him accuse you or cheating if you spend time with friends.THIS is TYPICAL abuser behavior. Text book.He might have some good qualities, that made you fall for him in the first place. I’d call those BAIT. Because the rest of his “attributes” such and accusing you of cheating, having you walk on eggshells when you text in case you “type” the wrong thing, avoiding your friends etc. etc. ARE ALL TOXIC behaviors.I’m also certain that you are SMART enough to know HE WILL NOT change. THIS is who he is, it might even escalate to him being violent to control you further.You know what to do. LEAVE, END it and block all access.Love isn’t the reason you are still with him.So why ARE you still with him? You think you can FIX him, if ONLY you do EVERYTHING right? If you try to be “more” perfect, HE will be perfect?That isn’t realistic. What IS realistic is that he will escalate. He uses, manipulation, control, and abusive behaviors. But you haven’t seen it all. Because for now YOU are trying to be that “perfect” GF in hopes that will make HIM a better man. IT WON’T. He would have you running barefoot on coal and then accuse you of for someone else. Or that you didn’t do it right.You need to get out NOW. HALF the World’s population is male. It’s NOT like you can’t find yourself another man. A BETTER man. A man more suited for you. Who will love you, respect you, care for you, trust you and honor you. THIS isn’t THAT guy.You know what to do, so DO it. A DECENT man would NOT want a partner to cut contact with friends, wouldn’t hold sex over your head, accuse you of cheating etc.etc.So you know HE IS NOT a decent man.I hope you get your courage up ASAP and leave him. I suggest you confide in a friend(s) for support. Before you break up, make sure you get ALL your stuff from his place and put back ANY that he has at yours.

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A male reader, kenny Health And Fitness hes-extremely-possessive-and-mentally-abusive-but-i-still-love-him-advice-please He's extremely possessive and mentally abusive but I still love him. Advice please!! Relationship & Sex     + , writes (13 November 2018):

Health And Fitness 4cc5fb9e-3003-4af6-86e2-5658fc8fc244 He's extremely possessive and mentally abusive but I still love him. Advice please!! Relationship & Sex    I can’t see anything changing anytime soon, and i don’t think he will ever change either. I thnk that you need to find the courage and leave this relationship, i feel the longer you leave it the harder it will become. I know its a daunting prospect, the thought of leaving a partner, the thought of being alone, never meeting anyone else. I can assure you, you will not be alone, and you will eventually meet someone nice who gives you the love and respect that you so rightly deserve. Confide in family and friends, im sure they will all be right behind you on this. Take some time out of a relationship and work on getting your self back togther and have some well deserved fun. Good luck.

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A male reader, N91 Health And Fitness hes-extremely-possessive-and-mentally-abusive-but-i-still-love-him-advice-please He's extremely possessive and mentally abusive but I still love him. Advice please!! Relationship & Sex     + , writes (13 November 2018):

Health And Fitness 977e3106-6f9b-4a08-abba-678cab1a22f1 He's extremely possessive and mentally abusive but I still love him. Advice please!! Relationship & Sex    Do you think marriage would change this? Having a child together? You need to accept that this will be your life as long as you stay with this guy. He’s an abuser, you’re right. Using manipulation tactics to control you, how long before it becomes physical? Do you honestly think this is what love is? I couldn’t imagine speaking to my girlfriend in this manner, it wouldn’t ever cross my mind to ask her those kind of questions to control her.Don’t you think that you could find someone who treats you right? Are you planning on putting up with this for the rest of your life? This guy is a lowlife and has no respect for you. What do you love about him? Sounds like a nightmare from what you’ve described. Tell your mother how he treats you and see what she says. I bet you wouldn’t dare to.Leave this guy, you’ll find someone who treats you right and you’ll wonder how you wasted a year and a half on this asshole.

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