Hello everyone I’m in a situation and I don’t know what to do so I’m hoping for some good advice I’m in a relationship now for 6 years the past year or so he has made me feel worthless like I’m not good enough for him he makes no effort with how he looks he walks about with his trainers hanging off his feet holes in his clothes he gets s hair cut every 6 months whereas I dress nice hair and make up always done I’m only slim always wear perfume and deodorant he constantly stares at other women in front of me never makes any time for me anymore sits looking at porn on his phone on a night sleeps downstairs on a sofa bed we have sex once every 2 weeks and it’s boring I don’t know what to do I feel so down and fed up any advice greatly appreciated thank you
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A male reader, Fatherly Advice + ♥, writes (3 October 2018):
I have some serious advice for you. It is very important, but it is going to sound harsh. So I hope you read through it without getting too offended. I’m not attacking you. I’m not excusing his poor behavior. I’m really trying to help you through this.No one can make you feel. You choose how you feel. Now logically speaking, you know that you are a way better girlfriend than he deserves, but you allow his poor behavior to make you feel worthless. You need to actively reject those feelings. examples:If he is looking at porn you could think He thinks they are prettier than me or you could chose to think. He’s too lazy to have great sex with me, he’d rather click and go.He dresses poorly, you could think I’m not good enough for him to dress up. Or you could think, I’m not going to be seen with such a slob. I’ll tell him to put on clean clothes. He looks at another woman, you could think he likes her more, or you could think, He is actively choosing to be with me.These are little thought exercises you can do to help your self perception. After all you know you are pretty great, why trust his perceptions?a final note:Your relationship is not in a good place. There are other things you can do to work on other problems. But to stick to your question, I’ll leave it at this.
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