A female Health And Fitness his-ex-was-hot-is-he-settling-for-me His ex was HOT ... is he settling for me? Relationship & Sex    age 26-29, anonymous writes:

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My bf and I have been dating a little over a year. This insecurity of mine is due to one particular ex coming up several times in our convos. Always comes up about how guys swooned over his ex because she was hot. My bf says I’m the best he has ever dated (educated, gorgeous etc). I’m starting to doubt that though because of what he has said about his ex.

I have talked about my ex as well, but never about how hot he was. I’ve told him twice not to bring up how hot his ex was because that makes me feel like he is settling for me. Is this something I should be concerned about? He is the most caring guy I’ve ever had, but I don’t want him lying to me?

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A male reader, WiseOwlE Health And Fitness his-ex-was-hot-is-he-settling-for-me-1 His ex was HOT ... is he settling for me? Relationship & Sex     + , writes (10 December 2018):

This is in the vein of “who’s the fairest in the land!”Welcome to reality. You’re going to meet guys in your age-group who’ve dated a lot of hot women before they met you. Some will be prettier than you. They may never forget them! How does your personality and character measure-up or compare to the others? Does your insecurity surpass your confidence? All these determine whether you’re a keeper!He may have dated somebody hotter than you once upon a time.What’s that got to do with the here and now? Unfortunately, he has a memory; and doesn’t suffer form amnesia because he met you! Is he supposed to kill her, or wipe her off the face of the planet?Ask him stop bringing her up, or get a new boyfriend!Who’s he with now? He’s apparently able to date really great-looking ladies; but too bad you can’t be the hottest of them all.What’s most important is how he feels about you as a person. Not how much he can pacify your vanity and validate you!Grow-up, your conceit is showing! You’re going to lose a boyfriend if you don’t cut it out! If you can’t stand it and he won’t stop, maybe he’s the wrong guy for you!

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (10 December 2018):

TBH I dont think he is over his ex yet. What is stopping him from going back to her? You should tell him he aught to go back to her.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (10 December 2018):

Read back on the several other questions you have posted basically asking the same question, the replies still stand

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