I’m in a dilemma – my long distance boyfriend and I have spoken about marriage and he says he wants to marry me. However, he at first didn’t want a child and then agreed to have one with me “because he wants a life and marriage with me”.
We have talked all about relocating for marriage and a child. I live in a big city on the east coast. He lives in middle America. Despite previously saying he would transfer his government job to an east coast city where I could also get a good job, he has now thrown down an ultimatum. Saying option 1) I move to his affordable middle America town and we have a kid 2) we agree not to have one and can live in an east coast city. This makes no sense to me and seems like an excuse. (Btw money is not an issue. He makes a good six figure salary and so would I in an east coast city). We are in our 40’s and together for 3 years so the child window is quickly closing and I don’t know what to do.
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A female reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (11 March 2019):
Why is HE the only one o you who can make these decisions?Sounds like MY way or the highway, here.And have you asked him for his REASONING with these 2 choices he has thrown out there?
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