A male Health And Fitness how-do-i-get-my-gf-to-have-sex-with-me-again-if-she-doesnt-then-how-do-i-cope-with-not-having-sex How do I get my gf to have sex with me again? If she doesn't, then how do I cope with not having sex? Relationship & Sex    age 30-35, *ilvers writes:

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I have been with my girl for a year. we love each other. but since from early on our sex life has been pretty minimal.only when she drinks she initiates sex. but now she doesn’t drinkwe have talked about it and she says she’s just going through things and it will get better. so in the last 3 months we’ve had sexual maybe 3 times. i’m willing to wait for her but i’m just afraid that if our sex life is like this now what is gonna be like in 10 years. so my question is what the do i do. either how do i get her to have sex with me again or how do i cope with not having sex i’m tired of masterbating hahawhen i ask her she says that she wants to and loves having sex with me but there’s something stopping heri want to talk to her about it but when i do she gets weird about it and i feel like i’m putting too much pressure on her. but i’m about to explode from sexual frustration.any advice?! thanks guys.

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A female reader, Honeypie Health And Fitness how-do-i-get-my-gf-to-have-sex-with-me-again-if-she-doesnt-then-how-do-i-cope-with-not-having-sex How do I get my gf to have sex with me again? If she doesn't, then how do I cope with not having sex? Relationship & Sex     + , writes (22 November 2018):

Health And Fitness 98df9f73-904a-4dd9-a948-14179b833b87 How do I get my gf to have sex with me again? If she doesn't, then how do I cope with not having sex? Relationship & Sex    I think you need to find out WHY she needs to be drunk to be intimate with you.If she is “trying” to deal with it, it might be past trauma- rape, abuse or even an abortion that is making sex hard for her to engage in without being drunk.And while I don’t think she owes you all the nitty gritty details, I think you two need to have a more open conversations about this.And no you won’t die from the lack or sex. But you might have to come to the realization that sex isn’t as important to her or have the same positive connotations, as it does to you.That if it IS abuse or rape that she really needs to seek professional help to work through it.If it’s “just” her libido, then I would add some romance (without expecting sex) and see if that makes her libido “perk up”.I don’t think that anyone should “just accept” that their partner doesn’t want sex. It might be you two are just not compatible with the intimate side of things and then you have to decide, HOW important is sex to me?

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A male reader, WiseOwlE Health And Fitness how-do-i-get-my-gf-to-have-sex-with-me-again-if-she-doesnt-then-how-do-i-cope-with-not-having-sex How do I get my gf to have sex with me again? If she doesn't, then how do I cope with not having sex? Relationship & Sex     + , writes (22 November 2018):

You may need to ask her if she’s pregnant?

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A male reader, WiseOwlE Health And Fitness how-do-i-get-my-gf-to-have-sex-with-me-again-if-she-doesnt-then-how-do-i-cope-with-not-having-sex How do I get my gf to have sex with me again? If she doesn't, then how do I cope with not having sex? Relationship & Sex     + , writes (22 November 2018):

Talk to your girlfriend and ask her what’s going on? She needs to share what’s going on. She has to trust you, or she’ll never open-up. It makes no sense that she’s withholding problems that are affecting your relationship; unless it’s something so bad she fears you could leave her.Make sure you haven’t been watching porn, checking-out other women on social media, keeping in-touch with exes, or bringing-up your old girlfriends too often in conversation. It registers on her brain, and it will not delete; no matter how many times you hit the delete button! Ask her flat-out if she is interested in someone else? Get that matter out of the way as quickly as possible. Then you need not go any further.You need to know if it’s physical, and she may need to see a doctor. Maybe her gynecologist, if she is having dry or painful sex. If it’s emotional, she may need some counseling or therapy. She can’t keep you in the dark and waiting. She has to be more transparent; or she’s in a relationship by herself, and you don’t have to stick around and play guessing-games.Always try the gentle approach when discussing matters of intimacy. You can’t be pushy or abrupt. Ask her what’s going on, and just listen. Get a nice bottle of wine. Light some candles, buy her some flowers. Ask for a quiet sit-down to have a heart to heart talk. Take her out for an evening; sometimes things fall into a rut, and your mate feels neglected. Be gentle and add foreplay to sex. If it’s over in five minutes; or you don’t finish her off, it’s just about you, and she’s just a tool to get you off. Communication and listening is what solves these kinds of problems. You have to let her know that you’ll listen when there’s a problem; or she’ll keep it to herself. If you’re the type of guy who belittles her problems, or half-listens; you’ll condition her to clam-up and shut you out.Add romance, kissing, and cuddling to your repertoire in lovemaking. On, off, rollover, and sleep doesn’t cut it! Insulting her intelligence, never complimenting her, and only being nice when you want sex is a turnoff. Always forgetting birthdays, ignoring her when she talks, or name-calling; will wear a person down, until they can barely stand your presence. Go down the checklist; if you’ve done nothing, then it’s all on her.Here’s my last guess. She’s waiting for a ring. Putting the top on the honeypot is a common remedy for a guy who doesn’t seem to have interest in taking things to the next level. You need to get inside her head, or you’ll get frustrated; and it will become an issue to fight about. If she won’t share and keeps you guessing; maybe you’ve reached your expiration-date and the relationship has run its course. Be that the case, you need to know now!BTW, you won’t explode from sexual-frustration! She may have tried many times to tell you, but you weren’t listening. Pry it out of her gently using the suggestions above. If nothing works, inform her that you feel there’s something wrong with the relationship; and if she can’t help you to work it out, maybe you’ll have to consider ending it. Use ultimatums only as a last resort. Never threaten to leave; unless that’s exactly what you plan to do.Threats you don’t carry-out become passive-aggressive mind-games; and then she’ll have a right to kick you to the curb. Sex has already slowed to a trickle. Abuse by means of threats will get you nowhere.A relationship without trust, openness, intimacy, and communication; is as good as gone!

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