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My husband left for Florida to visit his mother for 2 weeks. I could not go because it’s the holiday season and our company does not permit vacations in December. Usually we go together in January but my husband is starting a new job in the new year. His mother needs his help finishing renovations at her condo.

My problem is I worry he is there without me and can have a fling for sex purposes. He’s in a 55 + retirement community.I’d like to know if you can suggest any coping strategies for worry, panic, anxiety and paranoia while he is away. The last time he was there alone almost ended our marriage. It was really that severe. How can I survive the next two weeks without thinking he has another woman down there? He will still have plenty of down time. It’s already starting to eat away at me. 🙁

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A male reader, WiseOwlE Health And Fitness how-do-i-stop-the-constant-thoughts-my-husband-will-cheat-when-hes-out-of-town How do I stop the constant thoughts my husband will cheat when he's out of town? Relationship & Sex     + , writes (3 December 2018):

You apparently never forgave your husband for a prior indiscretion; and he never regained your trust(?). If you don’t trust the man, nothing anyone here can say will make you trust him, or soothe your anxiety. If you have issues with uncontrollable jealousy and possessiveness; you need therapy. Didn’t you mention that your insecurity nearly ended your marriage? Did he actually cheat, or did you just lose your mind with suspicion and paranoia? You’ll just have to stew in your juices and use self-control. He’s a grown-man, and he can come and go as he pleases. Baby-sitting and catering to your insecurity is not his responsibility. Be real, he isn’t likely to have a lot of temptation among gray-haired elderly women in a retirement community. You’re being irrational. If he’s a confirmed cheat, your torment is self-inflicted. Why are you clinging to a man you are certain will cheat on you? If he’s innocent, he can’t possibly be happy being subjected to such behavior from you!While he’s away, go find yourself a therapist you can talk to. Maybe a mental-health professional can help you deal with your separation-anxiety. Maybe you’ll also determine the origin of this high-anxiety; if it’s not based on any previous cheating. He may justifiably remedy the problem by leaving you; if you won’t practice self-control. If he is a confirmed-cheater; maybe therapy will help you to gain the emotional and psychological strength to leave the marriage and move on.Let these thoughts give you motivation to work on it.

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A female reader, Tisha-1 Health And Fitness how-do-i-stop-the-constant-thoughts-my-husband-will-cheat-when-hes-out-of-town How do I stop the constant thoughts my husband will cheat when he's out of town? Relationship & Sex     + , writes (3 December 2018):

Health And Fitness how-do-i-stop-the-constant-thoughts-my-husband-will-cheat-when-hes-out-of-town How do I stop the constant thoughts my husband will cheat when he's out of town? Relationship & Sex    You seek counseling as soon as possible. Individual for certain. Marital if he’s a known cheater. Which I suspect he is because you are over the top upset if he’s not.Seek counseling.

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A female reader, Honeypie Health And Fitness how-do-i-stop-the-constant-thoughts-my-husband-will-cheat-when-hes-out-of-town How do I stop the constant thoughts my husband will cheat when he's out of town? Relationship & Sex     + , writes (3 December 2018):

Health And Fitness 98df9f73-904a-4dd9-a948-14179b833b87 How do I stop the constant thoughts my husband will cheat when he's out of town? Relationship & Sex    Has he cheated before?Why do you think cheating is something he will do?And why are you married to a man you think you can’t trust?

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