A male Health And Fitness i-am-paying-my-girlfriends-rent-but-we-are-not-on-good-terms-what-should-i-do I am paying my girlfriend's rent but we are not on good terms. What should I do? Relationship & Sex    age 41-50, anonymous writes:

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Found girlfriends journal. Made the mistake of reading some of it. She has been in contact with her ex in prison. Sentenced 25 to life. Wants to visit him as soon as she can. Hasn’t seen him in like 2 yrs. I have been supporting her almost 100% for 6 months. She found out and confronted me. I fessed up and admitted I read some and looked him up. It was wrong. Like reading someone else’s mind. I haven’t made contact with her for about a week. She hasn’t left the apartment because she has no where is to go. I am paying the rent but have my own place. What do I do with her.

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A male reader, N91 Health And Fitness i-am-paying-my-girlfriends-rent-but-we-are-not-on-good-terms-what-should-i-do-1 I am paying my girlfriend's rent but we are not on good terms. What should I do? Relationship & Sex     + , writes (8 September 2018):

Health And Fitness i-am-paying-my-girlfriends-rent-but-we-are-not-on-good-terms-what-should-i-do I am paying my girlfriend's rent but we are not on good terms. What should I do? Relationship & Sex    Kick her out, save your money. Why waste it on someone who’s contacting their ex? Break up and find someone there’s no drama attached to. Who needs a criminal adding to the mix of their relationship.Why are you paying for her rent in the first place? She has a job and she’s an adult, it’s her job to find accommodation. People will take advantage of you if you let them.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (8 September 2018):

Here are a few answers to your questions. I have known her for a year. She currently has a job. This and a few past ones were low paying. She dropped out of high school and has past drug charges. No skills but intelligent. So the past few months she couldn’t get hired. The rent is a month to month. So it is paid till the end of the month. As for reading her journal, it wasn’t marked. I didn’t go snooping through her things. It was a simple 80 sheet notebook. She had used it the day before to make a grocery list. I needed a sheet of paper and looked in the catch all drawers. It was there and I pulled it out. It was then I discovered the letters from prison. So I looked him up. Three convictions. Jessica’sà Law made the third a mandatory sentence. From what I have learned her family won’t talk to her. I have been the only stability she has known in many years. I don’t really have much options to date and she did make me happy till now. Can’t win if you don’t buy a ticket.

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A male reader, CMMP Health And Fitness i-am-paying-my-girlfriends-rent-but-we-are-not-on-good-terms-what-should-i-do I am paying my girlfriend's rent but we are not on good terms. What should I do? Relationship & Sex     + , writes (7 September 2018):

Move on and save some money. Don’t let her try to talk you out of it, she will likely be manipulative considering she needs your money.Talking care of someone like her is not your job anymore, she’s an adult.

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A female reader, aunt honesty Health And Fitness i-am-paying-my-girlfriends-rent-but-we-are-not-on-good-terms-what-should-i-do-2 I am paying my girlfriend's rent but we are not on good terms. What should I do? Relationship & Sex     + , writes (7 September 2018):

Health And Fitness i-am-paying-my-girlfriends-rent-but-we-are-not-on-good-terms-what-should-i-do-1 I am paying my girlfriend's rent but we are not on good terms. What should I do? Relationship & Sex    Why have you been supporting her for 6 months? While I agree it was wrong to read her private journal you cannot take that back now, however she has been disloyal to you keeping in contact with her ex and keeping it from you. How long have you both been together? I would stop paying her rent for her, she is an adult who am sure is capable off looking after herself. Can she not find a job to support herself? It sounds like she is taking advantage off you. Do you really see this relationship going anywhere?

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A female reader, Honeypie Health And Fitness i-am-paying-my-girlfriends-rent-but-we-are-not-on-good-terms-what-should-i-do I am paying my girlfriend's rent but we are not on good terms. What should I do? Relationship & Sex     + , writes (6 September 2018):

Health And Fitness 98df9f73-904a-4dd9-a948-14179b833b87 I am paying my girlfriend's rent but we are not on good terms. What should I do? Relationship & Sex    You inform her that you can no longer support her and then you STOP paying the rent. If the place is in YOUR name, you might need to file an eviction notice. It’s not really your problem whether she has a place to live or not.What future do you really see with her? She is clearly taking advantage of your generosity. Not an indication that she cares for you. You might just be a means to an end.While I DO FIND it reprehensible to read someone diary/journal – it’s a fact you can’t change. All you can do is decide where to go from here.You obviously can’t trust her and well, SHE can’t trust you… so what do you have? Nothing.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (6 September 2018):

Why are you paying her rent when she’s planning to visit her ex in prison?You should be with somebody that appreciates you, not caring more about her low life ex in prison. The fact he’s serving life too shows it was something very serious. I’d get out now while I still can!

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