Hi, i just wanna ask someone here if you have this kind of experience. Im living with my bf. Yes i do love him and i think he love me too. But this everyday dealing with his i dont know how i can call it ” sometimes he is fine, he is happy he is in the mood for a jokes. But most of the time he is like telling me, he has a heart problem, that he will die soon, he dont know if he is gonna wake up next day, then we were at doctor and doctor said he has no problem at all. He just need to exercise, welk everyone must do exercise, he is full of complaining in life, like he is not earning enough money, why he is not that rich, why others have more than him, while he got 4 degrees in school and he is actualy earning good money, we are actually not renting a house, in other words he has everything he need which other need to do credit so they can have it. What im trying to say it he is never been contented in anything. He complain fot everything, im trying my best to understand him but sometimes im having already stress with his all dramas and actions, sometimes he is crying like he is gonna die, i find it like emotional abuse. I feel it heavy on my shoulder already and im having too much stress on him already because of it. He is actualy ok when he is not in this mood of dramas, he is sweet, kind and he is also a responsible man. But in his shorts coming i dont know how to deal with it anymore. I try my best to find a right time to talk to him seriously about this but with him you can never start any conversation that will lead him to something that will hit him. He is very very super talkcative. He has always an answer to any discussion and he must be always the right one. Im having headache and stress with this already and i dont know anymore what to do. Maybe somebody here can give me some advice on how am i going to deal with it. Sometimes im just trying to ignore him like what his sister advice me to do. But living with someone 24/7 in this behaviour is not easy at all. Thank you all for thr help
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A male reader, BrownWolf + ♥, writes (14 March 2019):
Hi OP,BF means….boy “friend”…not husband. Boyfriends and girlfriends are only there to help us make the right decisions for marriage…LOVE has nothing to do with making a common sense decision. Such as…is he or she someone I want to marry.We fall in love with people with bad habits, and bad attitudes. Somehow we think if we stick around long enough, we can change them into the person we want.Some people see their faults and want to change. Others are blind to their own foolishness, and will never change. But guess who can change???? You…because if you loved yourself, you would not put yourself through this. If the person you are with is bringing you down all the time, how much further down do you have to go before you say enough???If you were married, and something happened to your husband to make him behave this way, I would say stick it out, and figure it out together. But in this chase, you have no commitment as in marrage. You simple have two common sense choices to make…is he right for you, or wrong??? Are you ready for ten more years of this?? Or should find your own happiness before it’s too late?You maybe afraid to be alone. But living a miserable life waiting for someone to “maybe” change their ways…I would rather be alone and happy.
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