Hi This is gonna be long post .
I am 23.lets call him A . We met in highschool and offically started dating. His parents and extended family approved of us and things were good. We were both young and immature .We had all ups and downin the relationship and end of the day it was all cool. Soon I moved into his city after 4 years of relationship . Then I found like he was flirting with a junior girl. I called it off and let it go. He came back again things were good. So back 2017 December he was drunk one night ,broke up with me saying like it will not work out. At that point of time I was about to move abroad. Atleast I could not go due to financial constraints.Through these 10 months I use to text him and he would reply asking me to move on. Finally llast weelast week I came to know A was in relationship with another girl called M. She knew all happened and she was the replying to my texts too. I was too hurt beyond words. A said in call like he is gonna marry M soon and he is happy now. When A parents came to know about this they were supporting me and asked A to move out. While in call A told me to go out of country so that his parents would approve ffor his present girl. Even the Girl M wanted me to go and take care of my future. I am hurt completely and could not share my pain to my friends or family. Since I am from India I don’t wanna be judged by the society.What should I do ? I feel like if I move out people here might forget about me and I could move on. At the same time I don’t wanna make things easy for A also.
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A female reader, Youcannotbeserious + ♥, writes (30 October 2018):
Your focus should be on what is GOOD for YOU, not what is BAD for your ex. Making things more difficult for him will not make you happier, believe me. It will just prolong your pain. Do what you need to do to help you get over this and move on with your life. Your ex has made his choice. He has consigned you to his past. You need to do the same to him.
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A female reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (30 October 2018):
You need to let go of A and any dreams of a future with him.You two met when you were young and immature. While maybe all the parents thought this is it! It wasn’t. At least not for him. As for you having to move out of the country so they can marry? What? That isn’t YOUR problem!You need to focus on YOU and getting over A. Which shouldn’t be too hard as he really didn’t treat you right and wasn’t honorable or respectful either. YOU actually dodged a bullet, you could have married this loser who doesn’t treat women right!CUT the contact with BOTH A and M. They are NOTHING to you. And it’s DEFINITELY not up to them to tell you what to do with your life! That is YOUR choice!Talk to your family as to what options you have for education and work. Then focus on YOU and your family.Sometimes things don’t work out as we hope or plan for.Chin up. In time you will see that he wasn’t the one for you. That you deserve better.
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