A female Health And Fitness i-feel-like-our-relationship-has-been-killed-by-moving-in-together I feel like our relationship has been killed by moving in together. Relationship & Sex    age 30-35, *ovesocks89 writes:

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I have been dating a guy for 6 months, he had to find new accommodation quickly and I stepped in and said that he could move in with me, (1 and half months ago)However I am now beginning to feel really frustrated, miserable and angry a lot. I feel like we have gone from having a fun care free relationship to a serious scenario over night. He spent hours telling me how much he loved me, how amazing I was, how much he missed me, texting me poems and sending me romantic quotes. Prior to him moving in we saw each other 3/4 times a week. I just can’t handle the change in how he is with me.We have had several rows now, which I know is normal, but its left me feeling upset, and I feel I have no one to talk to, as well as being frustrated.I have also found myself getting frequently sexually frustrated as we don’t have sex everyday.My head feels in a jumbled up mess. I just keep catastrophising, being grumpy and he says that I am moaning at at him.Is the only solution to ask him to move out again? He believe he keeps getting fed up with me and bored of going over the same feelings that I have above. I feel like our relationship has been killed by moving in together.Any suggestions as to how I can get things back in place?

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A male reader, Code Warrior Health And Fitness i-feel-like-our-relationship-has-been-killed-by-moving-in-together-1 I feel like our relationship has been killed by moving in together. Relationship & Sex     + , writes (17 October 2018):

Health And Fitness i-feel-like-our-relationship-has-been-killed-by-moving-in-together I feel like our relationship has been killed by moving in together. Relationship & Sex    It looks to me like you’re sabotaging the relationship on purpose because you want him to drop the puppy love schtick. I suspect that you resent the pressure his feelings are putting on you because you don’t share those feelings, but you don’t want to hurt his feelings by telling him that. Instead, you make up all kinds of other bullshit to be pissed off about so that he backs off on his own.If I’m right, then I think you should risk telling him that you don’t want the puppy love, heavy feelings thing, you want the casual, carefree thing that’s exclusive, but not so serious. You can either hurt his feelings by incessantly complaining about overblown bullshit, or you can tell it like it is and risk hurting his feelings like that. Either way, you’re risking hurting his feelings, so you might as well be honest and relieve the pressure you’re feeling.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (17 October 2018):

Is that why you’re pissed off because he doesn’t have sex on demand every day and you let him move in thinking you would…

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A female reader, Honeypie Health And Fitness i-feel-like-our-relationship-has-been-killed-by-moving-in-together-1 I feel like our relationship has been killed by moving in together. Relationship & Sex     + , writes (17 October 2018):

Health And Fitness 98df9f73-904a-4dd9-a948-14179b833b87 I feel like our relationship has been killed by moving in together. Relationship & Sex    Yes, you ask him to move out.It’s not the end of it per se, but you BOTH got a taste of what living with each other is and it wasn’t good.And no, OP it’s NOT “normal” that when people move in together they start fighting.It might be more “normal” to happen when people you move in together TOO SOON, because they REALLY don’t know each other that well. You were BOTH on your best behavior prior to moving in, after moving in, he no longer thinks need needs to put in an effort you you seem to think that he now should be able to read your mind and deliver sex on demand.OP, come on.Yeah, he is being honest with you when he says he is getting fed up with having to talk about YOUR feeling over a the SAME subject OVER and OVER. Imagine he wanted to talk about a football game (some World series game perhaps) and go over play by play OVER and OVER… you would get fed up too! It’s kind of the same here (for him)If you could manage NOT being sexually frustrated when seeing him 3/4 times a week… it’s a little over-dramatic to claim that now you are living together you NEED to have sex EVERY day or you will get frustrated.But in short, tell him you think you two jumped the gun on moving in together, so he can find a new place. Whether you want to still date each other after he moves out, that is up to the two of you.But remember you can’t rewind the clock. You now know what he is like UP CLOSE and personal and vice verse. And it might be that NEITHER of you are a good fit long term.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (17 October 2018):

You moved in together too quick and now you resent him. Whether this is because you’re simply incompatible or you feel you went into something you felt was too soon is hard to tell.But if you’re arguing a lot he isn’t going to be up to having sex today and maybe he wouldn’t want it every day even if it was all hearts and flowers,that could be his sex drive.As I see it he needs to move out and if you still want to be together you go back to dating and move in WHEN it feels right, if it ever does.Good luck

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