I was in a weird relationship with this boy , I’m 20 now he’s 24 I met him when I was 17 but it was really just a hi and bye thing he was dating my cousin at the time and they were sweet hearts .
Me and him got involved when I was 18 and my cousin was no longer in the picture , he was my first real t love , he was used to sleeping with girls and just quick ‘ flings’ he met me and we both fell deep very intense very crazy things happened we had a deep emotional connection beyond belief. Due to unforeseen circumstances we were never able to be together , his life my life clashed , a lot of issues arose from us even being involved so we would back off from eachother but the universe would bring us together again . Currently I’m dating this new guy it’s been about 2 months he’s great I really have strong feelings for him but I know they’re not like my first love and that will be impossible to re create . He reminds me of him a lot and I’ve grown attached to him . My current boyfriend has introduced me to his cousin and long story short me and his cousin have a better connection and we both know we love eachother deeply . I don’t know why or how but it’s happened , I don’t know wat to do
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A female reader, Youcannotbeserious + ♥, writes (13 January 2019):
Being in a relationship is never going to stop you feeling attracted towards other people. However, how you choose to handle that attraction defines who you are morally. If this boyfriend is not right for you, then finish the relationship. Be kind but be firm. Say it is just not working for you. I am intrigued as to how you and the cousin know you love each other. Love comes from knowing someone, accepting their weaknesses as well as their strengths, going through hard times together and coming out the other end. It is not some airy fairy “the universe sent you to me” thing. It is much deeper than that. While I do totally get how you can feel that someone was sent to you for a reason, if that is how you feel about this cousin, then you need to end the current relationship with your boyfriend and see if there really is anything between you and the cousin. Cheating is never right, under any circumstances. I get the impression you are a person who loves the idea of being in love. It’s all about “connection” for you. None of this is out of your control, with the possible exception of your feelings. What you DO about it is TOTALLY your responsibility and under your control. Perhaps you just need to enjoy being young and feeling these feelings until you mature a bit and realize you cannot live your life purely by feeling “connection” with people, otherwise you will never be happy because there will always be one more person you feel about in this way.
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