Am a hospital nurse, a worker, not a boss or manager, am quieter, do my thing, am not full of ego, work quietly and am polite.
Am gay.Yeaterday at work this cocky, arrogant young Dr (maybe 27-28) makes a comment to a male nurse (steve) my age that he “is distracted by beautiful women around, no offence to you steve”Steve laughs and says “no offence taken”I was standing at a desk nearby writing something..No other female nurses nearby.My area is full of pretty nurses under 35, Im not one of them!Im pushing 50 and pale and barely average.Surely he was talking generally about the younger nurses?Then, later, At work yesterday, on the way somewhere, I seeThe same male Dr I saw earlier, he walks past me and says“Do you want a ruler”! Me: “no thanks”he then shows me a small plastic measuring ruler) Him: “you can use it to measure your ego” And smirks amd walks off What the hell was that about? I have never spoken to this guy! He is maybe 28, young and over confident. What?In quieter, not a boss, not full of ego!Do I need to worry?I was harassed at work 3 yrs ago on facebook by an older male cleaner i mistakenly “friended” as I thought he was ok (I blocked him after he became inappropriate and no issues since)But it scared me, noone knew about it.What is this young Dr doing?Joking?Intimidating me as an older worker?Im a mid 40s gay woman (dont look gay) who minds her business?!I do not know him and havent said a word to himHelp!!Thankyou.
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A female reader, anonymous, writes (29 November 2018):
I think it’s humour as honey pie says . I’m a nurse as well rmn and pretty enough and the docs do joke some are lil more forward . Here an example that may help . It’s Christmas and the sho is on duty and is running around with mistletoe kissing all the nurses .. I’m married so he comes to me and hangs the mistletoe and puckers up . Me im allergic. Him looking confused to mistletoe . Me. No just to you and walks away .
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A female reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (29 November 2018):
I think he is trying to joke with you, trying to get you r loosen up around him perhaps.What would I do? Well, that all depends. Personally, I would just humor back at him. Like with the ruler, I would have told him it’s WAY to small to measure your massive ego, but maybe it will suit him better… Which would be sarcasm. Either he gets it and have a laugh or he got knocked down a peg.Humor is humor, but not all find the same things funny.As for the pretty nurses comment, I think he was trying to be “charming”.If you don’;t know a good come back, just smile and shake your head.You being gays is irrelevant. He has no right to know about your personal preference.
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