I was talking to my boyfriend last night and I confided that sometimes I feel self conscious that my vagina is big. He said that it wasn’t but then went onto saying how every vagina is different and it makes for a different sexual experience.Sounds silly and naïve on my part but I honestly never knew this. He explained about depth, width, texture, wetness etc and how it made a difference to how sex was. He did also reassure me that mine had all the things he liked. Now I got thinking further into it and had a look at articles and questions on the subject and I saw that most men prefer tight vaginas. This again got me thinking about my partner and I recall when we first met and started having sex he said once he got to know me more he would be noisier in bed. I don’t think he is noisy at all so I came to the conclusion it must be because he has slept with women he prefers and this also being they have better vaginas that I have.He has told me that he loves me and never really loved anyone else and I am the best lover he has had but now this has got me wondering that surely this is not really the case….
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A female reader, YouWish + ♥, writes (21 September 2018):
You should believe him. He’s more candid with you than many guys are on subjects that can be really delicate.He is also nearly as insecure as YOU are when it comes to sex. His “noise” level is because he’s afraid he’ll sound like an idiot during sex to you as well as the fact that most guys learn from the age of puberty that an orgasm is something one has to hide from prying ears. Most guys’ first orgasm is usually a solo affair, and it’s usually at home with parents and siblings, so they learn quiet.He’s telling the truth about loving you for that very reason. A lot of guys have trouble with the “L” word because it makes them feel embarrassed and vulnerable. For him to SAY that to you absolutely means he is telling you the truth about how he feels.Your vagina fits him like a glove. But you also know that your vagina is not the only way he can get off during sex. Mouths and fingers (from BOTH OF YOU) make for some of the most earth-shattering orgasms. He could also be very self-conscious about what you think of his penis, too.It may not have occurred to you, but if you talk to him constantly worried about how “large” your vagina is, he may take it as you think his penis is small, and as insecure as he is and hoping that he makes YOU feel good, it may make HIM feel badly that he might not be satisfying YOU.Listen, the best way to have sex is to shut off your mind and let yourself go! When these thoughts intrude, tell yourself that he makes you feel like the most beautiful woman in the world. When he feels YOU letting go of your inhibitions and insecurities during sex, and he starts feeling the HIGHLY INTOXICATING feeling that YOU WANT HIM, he will let himself go too. And if you think sex is awesome NOW, trust me, you ain’t seen nothing yet!
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