i’m in love with my step-brother, and i am honestly scared of what would happen if my parents were to find out. i told my friends about it and the are okay with it they say that we are not related at all so it okay because our parents aren’t even, married but they do have a baby together and that is what bums me out about it. and the thing is that he likes me back as well we have been dating for 4 months already but we don’t really do anything because my mom is always trying to do something for us to not be around each other, every time I’m talking to him she would tell me to go to sleep or she would just make any excuse for me not to be with him…i know that it’s wrong for us to be together but I just really like him..so can you guys just tell me what I should do?
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A male reader, WiseOwlE + ♥, writes (2 November 2018):
It happens. You put a couple of teenagers together, and this is bound to happen. I think being so close; that your parents will eventually take notice. If you live together, they will not be comfortable about it at all. Your mother has her eyes on you; and at your age, too much interaction with boys is not a good thing. Especially one who is likely to become your step-brother. You do things behind backs. That’s a bad sign.I trust your mother is watching and she’ll cool down your hot little teenage hormones. You’re dating behind her back, and she’s not as dumb as you think. She smells a rat, and that’s why she separates you two. Doing things behind your parents back that you know they won’t approve of; means you’re untrustworthy, disrespectful, and don’t respect boundaries. What usually happens is she might send you to live with your father, or him to live with his mother. She’ll think of something. Trust me, she knows.What you should do is treat him like he’s your brother; before you get sexual and get yourself pregnant!
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A female reader, Andie’s Thoughts + ♥, writes (1 November 2018):
I know it’s hard, but you need to stop. What will you explain to your baby brother/sister about their brother and sister dating? It’s not a good idea. Your mum clearly suspects you’re too close.You know, deep down, that you won’t stay together for life because almost nobody stays with the person they crush on as a teenager. Do you really want things to be awkward for life because you carried on dating until it all went wrong?Actions have consequences and these ones could damage your family, OP. You need to both be mature about it and break up. Treat each other like brother and sister because that’s what you’re supposed to be now, albeit not blood or marriage related.This isn’t love. It’s a crush on both sides that feels like love because it’s “forbidden” and you’re both hormonal.What “dating” are you actually doing? No relationship is very serious, at your age, because none of us are mentally ready for it. That’s why it’s not worth driving a wedge between your baby brother/sister’s parents just to date your stepbrother for a little while.Please don’t kiss or go further than that. The consequences will hurt your family and I know you don’t want that, but that means you need to stop this now, before it gets even more emotionally complicated.Please, OP, think about your family first on this one.
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