A female Health And Fitness im-not-comfortable-seeing-him-if-he-is-going-to-date-other-people I'm not comfortable seeing him if he is going to date other people. Relationship & Sex    age 22-25, anonymous writes:

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I have been dating/talking to this guy for only 3 weeks. We have been in on a few dates and I have stayed at his house also , things seemed to be going well. So I found out he took another girl out on a date but he doesn’t know that I know , and I know I have no right to be annoyed as we have only been talking for such a short time, it’s not that I’m angry it’s just not really my thing to be dating Someone who is dating other people too. It puts me off, I only deal with one person at a time but that’s just me, I really don’t want to be involved with someone who is seeing me plus others, that means he could be sleeping with other girls too and I don’t like the sound of that. What can I say to him ? I’m not mad, it’s just not me dealing with a guy like this. What can I say to basically say I’m not comfortable with seeing someone who is seeing other people ?

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A male reader, Code Warrior Health And Fitness im-not-comfortable-seeing-him-if-he-is-going-to-date-other-people-1 I'm not comfortable seeing him if he is going to date other people. Relationship & Sex     + , writes (5 October 2018):

Health And Fitness im-not-comfortable-seeing-him-if-he-is-going-to-date-other-people I'm not comfortable seeing him if he is going to date other people. Relationship & Sex    You asked:”What can I say to basically say I’m not comfortable with seeing someone who is seeing other people ?”How about:I’m not comfortable with seeing someone who is seeing other people.Seems pretty simple eh? I mean, the answer is right there in your question. Of course, if you’d rather obfuscate and prevaricate in order to avoid coming across as old fashioned while at the same time letting him know that you’re old fashioned, you can always choose to sound like a blithering idiot that doesn’t know what you want. Unfortunately, there’s no magical turn of phrase that will explain your feelings perfectly while at the same time eliminating any chance that he will bail on you in favor of other girls who aren’t old fashioned. Life is full of risk. Get over it.

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A female reader, Honeypie Health And Fitness im-not-comfortable-seeing-him-if-he-is-going-to-date-other-people-1 I'm not comfortable seeing him if he is going to date other people. Relationship & Sex     + , writes (5 October 2018):

Health And Fitness im-not-comfortable-seeing-him-if-he-is-going-to-date-other-people-1 I'm not comfortable seeing him if he is going to date other people. Relationship & Sex    I understand you fully.However, it does seem to be the “norm” these days that SOME people date multiple people. I think, that IF someone IS dating more than one person at a time they need to be up front about it.I wouldn’t date someone who was going out with several people on dates either. It’s just not for me.If you two have started to have sex and stay OVER, I think it’s PRETTY low of him to still go on dates with others. But, on the other hand it seems YOU TWO haven’t had the “are we exclusive” talk. Which to me, should happen BEFORE sex/sleeping over.If I were you I’d tell him that you wish him luck but you don’t think you and he are a good match as it seems you have very different approaches to dating (among other things). That you understand he isn’t ready to commit to just one person but you don’t want to invest time and effort in a guy who is dating multiple women. That you wish him well and good luck. After that? You simply block the dude. And move on.It’s only been 3 weeks so you don’t really NEED to give him a long reason.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (5 October 2018):

Your under no obligation to date someone who is dating others but surely if you feel that way you will not be silly enough to sleep with him until he’s made it clear he wants exclusivity with you right ?If you sleep with a man who doesn’t give you exclusivity nine times out of ten your goung to get hurt Many people don’t realise the simple biological differences betweenMen and women once sex occurs whereby womenRelease bonding hormones . This puts women in an extremely vulnerable position should the man not be committed therefore it’s in the females best interest to wait until having sex unless she is one hundred percent certain that unattached aex is ALL she wants If you don’t believe me read about the biological differences in bonding between men and women during / after sex The lesson for women who feel like you , and incidentally I’m one of them too as are many many women I know is …Don’t have sex with men who won’t be exclusive !

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A female reader, Andie’s Thoughts Health And Fitness im-not-comfortable-seeing-him-if-he-is-going-to-date-other-people I'm not comfortable seeing him if he is going to date other people. Relationship & Sex     + , writes (5 October 2018):

Health And Fitness 1e67a9d8-8ab1-4c5e-b760-9b8ce154fba3 I'm not comfortable seeing him if he is going to date other people. Relationship & Sex    Just tell him what you told us, you aren’t comfortable dating someone unless exclusive. To be fair, seeing other people doesn’t automatically mean sleeping with other people. Also, if you are sleeping with him already, then you’re taking the risk that that is all he’ll see you as. It’s rarely a good idea to sleep someone within the first couple of months, as it generally sets a tone and expectations for the rest of it, when you’re still only just getting to know each other.I understand not wanting to date someone who is also dating other people, but it saves time in the scheme of things, if after a few dates you don’t get on as well as you thought and you have a couple of other people you talk to as well. They’re just has to be complete transparency with everyone involved and no sleeping together. It’s not an entirely new concept either, as people have done it for decades. I don’t know how I feel about being involved with someone who does it, but it makes sense not to commit to a stranger when you’ve only been talking for a couple of weeks. That said, after 4 to 6 weeks, I would expect exclusivity to be agreed upon or let the dating go.

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