A female Health And Fitness is-all-fair-in-love-and-war Is all fair in love and war? Relationship & Sex    age , anonymous writes:

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I had an affair 7 years ago. He broke it off after 2.5 years. We boyh stayed married to our spouses. I really loved him and was heart broken. 2 months ago he reached out to me. He claims he still loves me, is in love with me and on and on. I really do t feel tbe same. I et him and didnt feel anything. But i have been playing with him. Before during our affait he told me he loved me a hundred times a day. I was his soul mate, first love, we were meant to be together and on and on. But when his wife found out he dropped me andthen ghosted me. For 7 years. So i dont believe a word he tells me. I am bored, married a much okder man who is not interested in anything but golf. Is all far in love and war.

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A female reader, Youcannotbeserious Health And Fitness is-all-fair-in-love-and-war-1 Is all fair in love and war? Relationship & Sex     + , writes (2 March 2019):

Health And Fitness is-all-fair-in-love-and-war Is all fair in love and war? Relationship & Sex    Confused about why you are asking the question. Do you mean you want to go back and have another affair or are you trying to justify “playing” with your ex lover? Neither of those is “fair” or anything to do with love. Phrases like “all is fair in love and war” make war and love sound like games. Neither of them IS a game. It’s just a stupid saying people use to try to justify unreasonable or ridiculous behaviour. Why did you marry a much older husband? Security? That does not excuse cheating on him. If you don’t love him and the marriage is dead, leave him and be free to find someone who fulfills your completely natural human need to feel loved. Or is the money more important to you?While I can, to some extent, understand the yearning to exact some sort of “revenge” on your ex lover for his previous treatment of you, you need to realize that the opposite of love is not hate but INDIFFERENCE. Regardless of what you write, you are very obviously not over him yet, otherwise you would have just ignored him when he tried to contact you and not thought much more about it. If you get involved with him again, you know history will simply repeat itself and he will dump you again as soon as his wife finds out. Do you not think you are worth better?Perhaps you could make good use of your ex’s contact by taking stock of your life and deciding how you want to live going forward and what is of most importance to you instead of treating love like some sort of game?

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A male reader, N91 Health And Fitness is-all-fair-in-love-and-war-1 Is all fair in love and war? Relationship & Sex     + , writes (2 March 2019):

Health And Fitness is-all-fair-in-love-and-war-1 Is all fair in love and war? Relationship & Sex    He’s a lying, cheating slime ball. He showed his true intentions when his wife found out and he dropped you like a bad habit!You were nothing but sex to him and he fed you bull crap you keep you hooked which worked a charm!There’s no love in any of this. Not even your own marriage, why waste your life with someone you don’t care about? Your husband deserves better.

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A male reader, WiseOwlE Health And Fitness is-all-fair-in-love-and-war Is all fair in love and war? Relationship & Sex     + , writes (2 March 2019):

If you’re married to one man, whom you don’t love; and having an affair with another man who won’t leave his wife. What’s love got to do with any of this? He repeatedly tells you that he loves you. “I love you” is code for “lets have sex!” It’s the trigger-word that ignites your lust. It gets you hot and bothered; but it’s empty in meaning. You know that as well as I do. Your relationship with your ex-lover is more along the lines of lustful and addictive. No one wants to leave their current marriages; but you both maintained the affair, simply because you enjoy the thrill you get from cheating in secrecy. The drama and intrigue that you derive from deception; and the adrenaline that intoxicates you like a drug-induced high, at the thought of getting caught at any moment. Tempting fate and playing Russian roulette with your marriages.It all ends in nothingness. He always returns to his wife; and you to your husband. Perhaps marriages of convenience.There is no fairness in war. It’s all about destruction of your enemy. Apparently the enemy here is trust. The word “love” gets volleyed back and forth between you, but it’s not real. If it was, you would have divorced your spouses and runaway together seven years ago.Get a divorce. Start a new life, and change your attitude.

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A female reader, Honeypie Health And Fitness is-all-fair-in-love-and-war Is all fair in love and war? Relationship & Sex     + , writes (2 March 2019):

Health And Fitness 98df9f73-904a-4dd9-a948-14179b833b87 Is all fair in love and war? Relationship & Sex    No.It makes you JUST as bad as him, but in a sad and petty way.I feel sorry for your husband, he deserves better. If you marriage is so boring and your husband so boring, why not LET him go find someone who might enjoy him? and you can DO whatever or whomever you want?

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A female reader, singinbluebird Health And Fitness is-all-fair-in-love-and-war Is all fair in love and war? Relationship & Sex     + , writes (2 March 2019):

Health And Fitness 79d0c2a3-0e81-4c33-aad6-6d0c28d63046 Is all fair in love and war? Relationship & Sex    Move on.

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