Hi, I have been single for twenty years and dating for ten, long years. I dated on and off, because of the bad experiences. I have dated a lot of men, who have commitment issues, some with intimate issues, not being truthful with what they really want. I met a man a month ago and had two great dates. We have a lot in common, want the same things, and was honest.
For the last month life has gotten in the way of us getting together. Two times due to health issue and his oldest was in a car accident. I totally understood. He had to be a Dad, since their mother passed.This past weekend I thought we were going to get together. I was a little upset. We are in contact on a daily basis either text or calling. I did mention being lonely. I am usually not that open about my emotions, but felt it was ok, since he mentioned it himself. I have sent a few texts and even learns voice mail. I am at a loss. Did I do something wrong, by being hones ?Or is he losing interest with not seeing me for three weeks? I really thought I found a nice and honest man. He has three kids. Two of the kids are adults and the baby is a preteen. I understand his kids come first, my kids did, when they were at home. Is he being a jerk, not interested in me or just busy? Or did I screw it all up.
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A female reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (15 October 2018):
Could be that life is in the way, still.If so, I’d just back off and do your own thing.Can also be that your saying you are lonely made him run a mile as he is afraid you might be clingy.It’s really impossible to tell.However, it’s only been 3 weeks, so I would dial down the expectations.He might WANT the same things as you, but that doesn’t mean he wants them with you.And you both still have to get to know one another, IF he is still interested.So go about your life, do your things, live life and IF he picks up the slack and starts communicating and you still want to get to know him, just GO slow.Where is the fire?As for whether you made a mistake by being honest? That is impossible to know, texts (even calls) are easy to misunderstand when you don’t REALLY know the other person.I’d give him a week to get back to you, if he doesn’t move on.
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