A female Health And Fitness is-my-fiances-treatment-of-me-emotional-abuse Is my fiance's treatment of me emotional abuse? Relationship & Sex    age 36-40, anonymous writes:

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I have been with my fiancée for over two years. Usually he’s charming and sweet. He has a mean streak though. He feels entitled like I should pay for everything cause he makes less money. If we have a disagreement. He says to shut up , and insults me. If I try to talk about how I feel , if I ask him to communicate better he will say , yes teacher, or yes God. Or he asks me if I think I’m God. It really bothers me. I’m not used to this treatment. Is this emotional abuse?

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A female reader, Honeypie Health And Fitness is-my-fiances-treatment-of-me-emotional-abuse-1 Is my fiance's treatment of me emotional abuse? Relationship & Sex     + , writes (29 March 2019):

Health And Fitness is-my-fiances-treatment-of-me-emotional-abuse Is my fiance's treatment of me emotional abuse? Relationship & Sex    I absolutely agree with ALL the aunts and uncles.This is doesn’t respect you, treat you like you OWE him stuff because you are more successful than him and is overall a total TWAT!WHY are you with him?He is charming and sweet until what? The bill comes? Or you have an opinion?You say you are NOT used to this treatment… so WHY accept it from this guy? Because he proposed?You know once you get married and he has full access to your income you will be up a creek? He isn’t wanting to marry you because he LOVES you or cares about you… you are a possession. He will NOT be more respectful or loving once you marry. Quite the opposite.I can’t but echo the rest of the advice and say, DUMP the TOAD!Have more SELF-respect and SELF-love than staying with someone like this!

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A female reader, YouWish Health And Fitness is-my-fiances-treatment-of-me-emotional-abuse-1 Is my fiance's treatment of me emotional abuse? Relationship & Sex     + , writes (29 March 2019):

Health And Fitness is-my-fiances-treatment-of-me-emotional-abuse-1 Is my fiance's treatment of me emotional abuse? Relationship & Sex    He thinks you should pay for everything?? REALLY?? What a leeching little toad! What you make should have ZERO bearing on what you do together or who pays! If someone’s in a serious relationship, especially if you two are calling each other “Fiance”, then it should be DUTCH unless it’s someone’s birthday or some special occasion! His demanding or feeling entitled to all you own is disgusting. Imagine what will happen when you marry! It would be utter hell on earth for you.As for whether or not he’s emotionally abusing you, uhh that’s a big YES! Equal partners in a disagreement or argument don’t tell the other to shut up or use condescending language in the way he’s doing to you.But I would have dropped the freeloader the moment he declared that he’d leech off me like that! I feel the same way about a woman who demands and feels entitled to a guy ALWAYS paying for her as well! At this point in your mind, it shouldn’t be “Should I break up with him?”. It should be “How FAST can I kick this guy to the curb and out of my life forever??”

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A female reader, Aunty BimBim Health And Fitness is-my-fiances-treatment-of-me-emotional-abuse-2 Is my fiance's treatment of me emotional abuse? Relationship & Sex     + , writes (29 March 2019):

Health And Fitness 49f157e9-364f-4a56-bc91-249c21db156e Is my fiance's treatment of me emotional abuse? Relationship & Sex    This man has no respect for you, why are you even going to marry him, it will only get worse, not better.

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A male reader, WiseOwlE Health And Fitness is-my-fiances-treatment-of-me-emotional-abuse-1 Is my fiance's treatment of me emotional abuse? Relationship & Sex     + , writes (29 March 2019):

Yes it is emotional-abuse; and add verbal-abuse as well. If it feels abusive, it’s abusive. He doesn’t respect your feelings; and when you want to work with him to resolve or correct issues, he insults and dismisses you.A man with a mean-streak is a deal-breaker, my dear!Verbal-abuse is an attack through words meant to demean or degrade someone. Emotional-abuse goes a step further; by lowering your self-esteem, making you feel worthless, or helpless. He assumes a superior-stance over you to make you feel submissive to his will. Bringing God’s name into abusive-language is blasphemous.You can see what you have to look forward to in marriage with this man. If this is how it is now, don’t expect it to get any better. If he is in the same age-bracket as you are; between 35-40 (or older), he’s not going to change. You had better strongly consider if this is the kind of life you want to live; and if he is the kind of man you want to live it with. It’s difficult to be generous with someone who puts you down; and yet will also take your money.Why did you accept his marriage proposal, if you’re treated in such a way?

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