A female Health And Fitness it-seems-that-he-wants-me-to-want-him-despite-the-fact-hes-not-looking-for-a-serious-relationship It seems that he wants me to want him, despite the fact he’s not looking for a serious relationship! Relationship & Sex    age 30-35, anonymous writes:

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I have been seeing a guy got a few months now. At first I thought it would have potential eventually but now after getting to know him I feel like it’s not going to reach bf/gf status. He’s just not the kind of guy I would have a relationship with. Hes 36 but he seems a lot less mature. Talking about threesomes which I have no interest in. He talks about porn which although I don’t disagree with porn I don’t feel the need to share my taste with anyone nor hear about theirs. So I said to him the other day after he was talking about how he’s not ready for anything serious “oh my god don’t worry I’m not looking to ride off into the sunset together!” and he said rejection is a blessing. So I said look it is what it is you’re attractive and the sex is good. Which he said do you’re just using me ? I answered do you want me to? It was all quite tongue in cheek for me but he sends mixed messages I think. Like he really wants me to want him despite the fact he says he is not looking for anything serious. What do you make of this? Any advice would be great. I’m not sure how long it should go on for if it’s all just meaningless. We feel more like friends.

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A female reader, CindyCares Health And Fitness it-seems-that-he-wants-me-to-want-him-despite-the-fact-hes-not-looking-for-a-serious-relationship-1 It seems that he wants me to want him, despite the fact he’s not looking for a serious relationship! Relationship & Sex     + , writes (5 October 2018):

Health And Fitness it-seems-that-he-wants-me-to-want-him-despite-the-fact-hes-not-looking-for-a-serious-relationship It seems that he wants me to want him, despite the fact he’s not looking for a serious relationship! Relationship & Sex    It happens at times that Honeypie and I say the same thing with different words, so this time, I’ll make it even better: I’ll say the same thing – with the very same words :Does it matter what HE wants ?Why don’t you focus on what YOU want, instead. If you want a serious relationship, or at least something that has potential to develop into one, then clearly he is not the one, and you are wasting your time. ( But if you do want a serious relationship, then you should not play uber-cool and tell things like ” oh I am not looking to ride off etc. ” because, after all, that would be exactly what you want ).If all you want is a bit of fun , and you stick with him because he offers a good sexual performance,- I suppose you can keep going as long as YOU see fit. Meaningless ? The meaning of casual sex is to provide physical pleasure, and occasional recreation and entertainment ; and he is keeping his end of the bargain, it seems. If it does not sound to you such a great bargain after all, I guess it’s because you want and are ready for something more in your life and relationships.

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A female reader, Honeypie Health And Fitness it-seems-that-he-wants-me-to-want-him-despite-the-fact-hes-not-looking-for-a-serious-relationship-2 It seems that he wants me to want him, despite the fact he’s not looking for a serious relationship! Relationship & Sex     + , writes (5 October 2018):

Health And Fitness it-seems-that-he-wants-me-to-want-him-despite-the-fact-hes-not-looking-for-a-serious-relationship-1 It seems that he wants me to want him, despite the fact he’s not looking for a serious relationship! Relationship & Sex    Does it matter what HE wants?If he doesn’t want a serious relationship and THAT is what you are looking for, then STOP wasting your time on him, regardless of good sex and him being attractive.He can (and of you let him WILL) continue this “thing” you got going until he find someone he DOES want to have a serious relationship with, and it won’t BE you. Why do I say that? Because IF he wanted that with you he would GO FOR that with you.He might not be “mature” enough for a serious relationship if is he so into talking about porn and wanting 3-somes. To me that sounds like someone who is more focused on the various sexual “notches” and experiences so he later doesn’t feel like he missed out. Which is such an immature approach to sex and relationships. IMHO.

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