Is this a sign that something is wrong?
I’ve been with my boyfriend for 2 years but recently I feel like he doesn’t want to be around me. He lives at home with his parents,aged 25 and me at home with my parents ages 24.We usually see each other 5 days a week but recently we aren’t. Things do get in the way bit o feel some of it could be avoided. Not only that but he is spending so much time with his best friend and I feel he would rather be with him than me.I have always got on with his best friend. They’re also nezy door neighbours. Whenever he 2ould go out I would tell my boyfriend to go with him and have fun and not forget his friends and whenever they went out drinking I would pick him up and take him home.Buy all of q sudden their always together. His friend is single and he is someone that just sleeps around.Christmas eve we went to see my family then went to his where we agreed to watch films. He invited his friend over and they drank (I don’t drink) Christmas day he invited him over wj3n we played board games witj his family. And then boxing day he took me home and went on a night out with him! Yet all their other friends didn’t because they said they were with their partners. So if was jusy him and the single guys.When were apart he takes forever to reply to any messages. Which I wouldn’t mind but when were together he’s constantly on his phone ! I know he isn’t cheating but he jusy must be bored around me.New year’s eve he stayed at mine and we decided to stay in with a takeout but new years day be left as soon as he woke up and I haven’t seen him since. He keeps saying he is busy. He was meant to see me but 5jen he cancelled and he was out with his mate. I feel like I’m second best.I tried telling him this stuff in text today and I probably did nag because I told him I do feel unloved and like he doesn’t want to be around me and he’s with his friends more. He said I was acting out of character and to pack it in. So when I replied that we may as well not talk until he is ready to listen to my feelings. His reply? It was just “you’re nuts” I don’t know where I am not. No doubt if and when we resolve it he’ll say it’s because I’m emotional (I’ve had a tough few xays) and I take it out 9j him. But that’s not the cause I’ve felt like this for a while.Do I just give in and apologise and hope it gets better?
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A female reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (5 January 2019):
Maybe what YOU need to do is stop relying on him as your ONLY social interactions. GO out with YOUR friends, spend time with YOUR friends, have some balance.You told HIM how he shouldn’t forget his friend… yet I don’t see anything about YOU still seeing yours?Do you just give in and apologize? Why should you? If you told him how you felt and all he could say was “you are nuts”? then no, I don’t think you should apologize. I think you should give him some SPACE and TIME to miss being around you.And when you DO spend time together ENJOY each other’s company, it doesn’t have to be draining and about emotions and bad stuff…But for now, I think you need to go out a bit with YOUR friends. Not to go drinking or partying but to be around people OTHER than him.
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