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My boyfriend is obsessed with sex!

He constantly tells about sex, tries it on.even when I have been ill. I had a colopscopy procedure a few months ago and it was meant to be 6 weeks recovery time..after a few days he told me I should be having sex with him as his ex had this procedure and was having sex the next day! I felt obliged to have sex so did so! He constantly gropes me and implies sex every time we are together. He tells me it’s because he loves me so much and loves my body. I’m currently in bed with a cold and feel like shit, he sees this as an ideal situation to try and have sex. Am i being stupid? This really gets me down. We have an active sex life,once or twice a week depending on how busy we both are ( he has never been more than a week without) I have given in and had sex when I don’t want it and he is very happy for me to do this! He says I don’t love him and a massive part of a relationship is sex. He upset me the other night calling me fridge and then declared “great I ain’t getting laid tonight now” this really hurt me. Am i in the wrong?

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A reader, anonymous, writes (12 December 2018):

This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHe would never agree to ” sex days” he thinks he should be having it everyday like “his mates” I don’t know what planet he lives on. He tries to manipulate me by saying that he has never had this problem with women before and all his mates are “having fun” with their fantastic girlfriends when he never gets it as I don’t put out!!! He is no way happy with twice a week either..He only has to go 24 hours and he’s going mad at me

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A female reader, Andie’s Thoughts Health And Fitness my-boyfriend-is-obsessed-with-sex My boyfriend is obsessed with sex! Relationship & Sex     + , writes (12 December 2018):

Health And Fitness my-boyfriend-is-obsessed-with-sex My boyfriend is obsessed with sex! Relationship & Sex    It’s abusive – whether he means to be or not. No man can force you to have sex unless it’s rape. Learn to say NO and stick to it – someone who loves you will not manipulate you into it. You are not a sex object and you need to tell him that. If he keeps pressuring you into it, he does NOT love or respect you and you need to leave him.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (12 December 2018):

I’ve often been with women that had less sexual urge than me. I’ve rarely been with women who had more sexual urge than me. Sometimes, you find the right person that’s on the same rhythm as you are. It doesn’t mean they’re the perfect person for you, as sex is only one part of the relationship. Yet, when sex is not working well, it’s usually a bad sign.On his side: Arguably, guilt tripping someone is a light form of coercion. Guilt tripping someone into sex is like coercing them into it. That’s something people usually construct as rape.From what you say, your boyfriend comes off as indeed very manipulative. However, it doesn’t necessarily mean he’s doing that out of sheer perversity. He might actually love you and feel pretty insecure. Note that this still is not an excuse to treat you as you describe. If you love him enough to put some effort, you might try to talk about those insecurities with him. A refusal to discuss this should raise a red flag.On your side: Ask yourself, and be honest, if you feel as much physical attraction to him as to other guys. Maybe with someone else, you’d feel more inclined to have sex. Maybe there are other factors that stop you. Outside being ill and/or tired, what are the factors that kill the mood? Are there some things that turn you on? Maybe you need to cuddle, talk, watch a movie, whatever to get in the mood whereas he wants to have sex right away? If you have an idea of what puts you in the mood, ask him to try to do that. On the other side, when you definitively don’t feel like it, don’t dance around the subject, simply say no, and refuse any form of negotiation.Do you have pleasure during intercourse? Does he make the effort to please you? Or is it only about his orgasm? Do you sometimes feel like your doing it only for his benefit? Your pleasure counts as much as his. If you take don’t have much pleasure in bed, know that he’s clearly using you, not loving you.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (12 December 2018):

Wow what a creep . Someone who loves you cares about your health and would encourage you to follow your drs advice . Not go against it for his selfish sexual pleasure . I bet he is also the sort of guy who spends a lot of time looking at women on porn . Does he also claim to love them soMuch and be so attracted to them too ? Quite simply he is using you for his own pleasure and not eventreating you as human . It sounds abusive in a way too Why are you with this guy ?

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A female reader, Youcannotbeserious Health And Fitness my-boyfriend-is-obsessed-with-sex My boyfriend is obsessed with sex! Relationship & Sex     + , writes (12 December 2018):

Health And Fitness my-boyfriend-is-obsessed-with-sex-1 My boyfriend is obsessed with sex! Relationship & Sex    I have heard that women need to feel loved to want sex, whereas men need sex to feel loved. Your boyfriend possibly genuinely feels you don’t love him when you reject him. This does NOT excuse what he does to you nor make it right in any way, shape or form. It just puts it into context. You, on the other hand, don’t feel loved for yourself, given his constant pestering, hence feel even less like having sex. You are caught in a vicious circle.One way I have heard of getting round this is by actually agreeing certain days as “sex days”. So, if you are both happy with having sex twice a week, allocate two days when you both make an effort and make time for each other. Other days he has to agree to back off and stop molesting you.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (12 December 2018):

He needs to learn no means no and go back off . If he continues you will begin to resent him and your feelings may change .. tell him to get a blooming hobby your not a sex toy ..my husband and I had very high sex drive once we had kids priorities for me changed so I wasn’t always in the mood per se . Yes some men see sex as love and it isn’t. Mine learned so can yours . Just stand firm

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (12 December 2018):

He doesn’t care one jot about you as a person, he cares about his own selfish needs and in my book that is not love.He is name calling and manipulating you into thinking you have to have sex with him and that in my books makes him a nasty piece of work capable of abuse.If he genuinely loved you he wouldn’t treat you that way and would be concerned about your health. Get rid

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A reader, anonymous, writes (12 December 2018):

This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWe have been together about 18 months he has lived here for about 6 months,he always says ” you wanted sex all the time when we got together” who doesn’t!? He always refers to his exes and says that he had loads of sex with them..as you say probably lies!Even when I try and have a conversation with him he’s not listening and groping me or pulling my pants down…He thinks this is funny! I don’t!

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A female reader, Honeypie Health And Fitness us My boyfriend is obsessed with sex! Relationship & Sex     + , writes (12 December 2018):

Health And Fitness 98df9f73-904a-4dd9-a948-14179b833b87 My boyfriend is obsessed with sex! Relationship & Sex    First of all, OPYOU need to learn to say no. He is manipulating you with name calling, lies (probably) and pouting to make you give in. And you cave.While it’s GREAT that he find you attractive and wants to be intimate (a lot) – either you two aren’t really that well matched sexually or you are just letting him do whatever so you can seem like the best GF ever!He is turning sex into something you dread, a chore. He is being a sex-pest. A selfish asshat. Quite simply.If you are being told that you should wait 6 weeks recovery time, it means you NEED 6 weeks recovery time, it doesn’t matter one simple FART that his ex didn’t “need” recovery time. My guess is he is full of shit on that account. Unless he manipulated HER into having sex regardless of doctor’s advice.How long have you been together? And how long have you lived together?Do you feel it’s OK to pressure someone into having sex? Does that sit well with you? He seems to not give a shit about your health, or respect you at all. You are there to SERVE…My advice learn to stand up for yourself and say no, if you don’t FEEL like it, then HE needs to respect that.

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