Hi I have a partner and 2 children my oldest child is from a previous relationship he works through the day he comes home I go to work my son who is the oldest tells me that his dad shouts at our daughter and tells her to shut up I have mentioned this to him before and he stopped but has now started again she is only 4 and a amazing clever little girl how do I get him to stop shouting at her I feel like walking away from the relationship thank you
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A female reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (3 January 2019):
I think you need to have ACTUAL proof. So I’d buy a little nanny cam or two and see what ACTUALLY is going on.Of course he shouldn’t SHOUT at her. A 4 year old or really at ANY age.You will have a better idea of what is happening and show him proof of his behavior. Also, maybe you need to talk to him about HOW he handles frustration with the kids, how to best discipline etc.Maybe also consider that he is DEAD tired after a full day of work, so MAYBE once or twice a week get a baby sitter in, so he can take a couple of hours kids free?Find some simple HOW TO books on healthy discipline, read then, high light what you would like to see happening and then GIVE them to him and talk about it.If it doesn’t stop, well then you need to consider your next step.
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