A female Health And Fitness my-step-childrens-mother-is-creating-problems My step children's mother is creating problems Relationship & Sex    age 36-40, anonymous writes:

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I need some advice please. Not sure where to go from here. I have 2 beautiful step children. They have just got back from a once in a lifetime holiday with their Mum. We didn’t know about this holiday at all as their Mum didn’t tell us. We already have a court order in place to see them. As we have just got a mortgage we can’t afford to do take the children on holiday at a moments notice, so we have planned to take them on holiday in 2020 so we can save. This is with us and their baby sister (who is ours) and the children idolise her. Only problem is is mum is now saying we can’t as we never asked her. She has told the kids that they can’t go and they are devestated. We were going to tell her the moment we told the kids as she would have put the holiday in a negative light and made the kids tell us they didn’t want to go. As far as we are concerned, she has never told us their holiday plans and she hasn’t told us they are moving house as well. My step daughter told us. We just let it lie as we don’t want the drama and cross each bridge when it comes and pick our battles. This is the same when we got married 4 years ago. My stepchildren didn’t come to our wedding because of Mum saying no and booking a last minute holiday. . My stepdaughter missed out on being a bridesmaid.What can we do? Thank you Thank you

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A male reader, WiseOwlE Health And Fitness my-step-childrens-mother-is-creating-problems-1 My step children's mother is creating problems Relationship & Sex     + , writes (28 December 2018):

I don’t need to add to the advice that you need to discuss this matter with your attorney. Do not secretly take the children anywhere without notice; because you give her legal right to intercede, and challenge his visitation and custody rights. That’s her objective. She’s bitter, and using the children as a weapon.I will add that you be as loving and kind to the children as humanly possible. They will base their feelings and opinions on how they are treated; not on what she says. When what they experience and what she says conflicts; they will know when she is lying to them. Children are innocent, naive, and trusting; but they are not stupid!

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A female reader, Honeypie Health And Fitness my-step-childrens-mother-is-creating-problems-1 My step children's mother is creating problems Relationship & Sex     + , writes (28 December 2018):

Health And Fitness my-step-childrens-mother-is-creating-problems My step children's mother is creating problems Relationship & Sex    Like FA said,YOUR (that being your husband’s) only real option is seeking legal advice. SHE can not deny you guy to take them on vacation UNLESS she can actually document or prove WHY you can’t take them.Sounds like she just like a good drama. However, since she is using the kids, I would involve a lawyer/solicitor.

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A male reader, Fatherly Advice Health And Fitness my-step-childrens-mother-is-creating-problems-1 My step children's mother is creating problems Relationship & Sex     + , writes (28 December 2018):

Health And Fitness 3ba6bedc-98f8-4c77-a87a-176878559a2f My step children's mother is creating problems Relationship & Sex    This is a legal question and a referral to your legal professional. is the best advice you can get. Next best advice is to ardently avoid using the children as pawns in the post divorce power struggle.

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