A male Health And Fitness my-wife-is-giving-me-the-cold-shoulder-after-i-sent-her-touristy-pics-of-women-in-japan-how-do-i-handle-this My wife is giving me the cold shoulder after I sent her touristy pics of women in Japan. How do I handle this? Relationship & Sex    age 51-59, anonymous writes:

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I am on a business trip to Japan. I am taking some guided tours with colleagues in my spare time. It has been interesting to explore the different culture here. I’ve never been before.I have always been an avid photographer. I enjoy taking picture whenever I travel, when I am on business, or with my wife and family on vacations.I think I have landed in some hot water with my wife over some pictures I took this week in Japan. I have taken pictures of women in Japan I have seen on the streets during my tours or excursions in Tokyo. I photographed a few in kimono’s at the tourist areas near the Temple. I also photographed young women in anime attire (the “in” thing here) walking down the street, as I thought the clothing was different and unique. I thought she might want to see it as women are so into clothes and my wife is no exception. And as a joke, I photographed a sign for a massage parlour in downtown Tokyo with scantily clad women on it.I sent the pictures to my wife. She was not happy at all. She seemed upset that I was taking these pics. I am a tourist. And I was photographing all sorts of things. Not just women. And I might add, the pictures of women were few compared to my many of sumo wrestlers, temples, the city scape, fish market, store fronts and so on. I thought they were culturally different and there were no sexual undertones involved. They were just pictures!!! But my wife felt a little jealous I believe. She accused me of being turned on by these women and having a good time there without her.How am I supposed to handle this? Did I actually do something wrong? She is giving me the cold shoulder.

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A female reader, CindyCares Health And Fitness my-wife-is-giving-me-the-cold-shoulder-after-i-sent-her-touristy-pics-of-women-in-japan-how-do-i-handle-this-1 My wife is giving me the cold shoulder after I sent her touristy pics of women in Japan. How do I handle this? Relationship & Sex     + , writes (24 September 2018):

Health And Fitness my-wife-is-giving-me-the-cold-shoulder-after-i-sent-her-touristy-pics-of-women-in-japan-how-do-i-handle-this My wife is giving me the cold shoulder after I sent her touristy pics of women in Japan. How do I handle this? Relationship & Sex    Urgh. I can see where your wife is coming from. One would not need to be rabidly jealous and insecure to be cheesed off by your choice of photo subjects. I have two young nieces and when they were even younger they were into anime attire too- (although never worn in the streets, but at cosplay events or house parties with friends ). And the idea of some unknown old geezer taking such an interest to the point of wanting to take pictures (… without even asking them first , I suppose ? ) mmmhh… I would not be thrilled. Neither the parents would be, as Honeypie says.Plus- ” la lingua batte dove il dente duole ” ( the tongue always turns to the aching tooth “, and you can come up with any number of sociocultural explanations about your choice of subjects, but, as a Sunday painter 🙂 I have noticed time and again that WHAT we choose to portray, with a camera, a pencil or a brush etc., says a lot about us and about what’s on our mind and in our hearts. I have a friend who is a passionate dog lover , she went to Brazil and 30 % of the pics she took over there were of dogs . Stray dogs, purebreed dogs, all sort of dogs. We were all like, come on , you go to Brazil with all the extraordinary, unusal things and sights that there are, and you take a ton of pics of dogs ??. As if we did not have any in our country .But, of course- she is a person who think dogs, so she will photograph dogs. I guess your wife could not help wonder what do you have in mind, if , among all the many things which can symbolize Japan to a Western eye, you chose scantily clad young women.

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A female reader, Honeypie Health And Fitness my-wife-is-giving-me-the-cold-shoulder-after-i-sent-her-touristy-pics-of-women-in-japan-how-do-i-handle-this-2 My wife is giving me the cold shoulder after I sent her touristy pics of women in Japan. How do I handle this? Relationship & Sex     + , writes (24 September 2018):

Health And Fitness my-wife-is-giving-me-the-cold-shoulder-after-i-sent-her-touristy-pics-of-women-in-japan-how-do-i-handle-this-1 My wife is giving me the cold shoulder after I sent her touristy pics of women in Japan. How do I handle this? Relationship & Sex    I find it hilarious that you pretend to be this dense.Of all the GORGEOUS stuff you COULD take pictures off, you CHOOSE to take pictures of young women, massage parlor signs… Because you claim that your wife could be interested in their costumes, the type of clothes teen girls and young women in their 20’s wear… Is your wife into Anime? Design? Would she ever dream of wearing any of that? Sure…I get the women in Kimonos, because that is what many Westerners associate with Japan. And she is dressed in a costume for the PURPOSE of being photographed. Random girls on the street aren’t. If you had a daughter that age (teen/early 20’s) would you want other OLD guys to to take their picture. I can tell you this, I rather they don’t do that, no matter how fashion forward my daughters might be dressed.It tells a LOT more about you than her.Had it been my husband I would honesty question him why he is perving on these young women he doesn’t even know.It does surprise me though that you wife would get upset, you sound like a guy who is lacking a little in the manners department. She ought to be used to it by now.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (24 September 2018):

It isn’t as bad as everybody’s making out here. But yeah she clearly took it the wrong way and sounds like she’s jealous you being over there and she’s back home and rightly so too. Just explain to her it meant nothing and remember to bring her a nice gift back!!

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A female reader, Youcannotbeserious Health And Fitness my-wife-is-giving-me-the-cold-shoulder-after-i-sent-her-touristy-pics-of-women-in-japan-how-do-i-handle-this-3 My wife is giving me the cold shoulder after I sent her touristy pics of women in Japan. How do I handle this? Relationship & Sex     + , writes (24 September 2018):

Health And Fitness my-wife-is-giving-me-the-cold-shoulder-after-i-sent-her-touristy-pics-of-women-in-japan-how-do-i-handle-this-2 My wife is giving me the cold shoulder after I sent her touristy pics of women in Japan. How do I handle this? Relationship & Sex    Come on, sir. You KNOW you have overstepped the line, sending your wife photos of massage parlour signs. How about you suggest you take her there for a holiday sometime (if that’s possible) so that she can see for herself what a lovely place it is?

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (24 September 2018):

What a strange thing to do . Would you also find it equally as innocent if your wife were on vacation alone somewhere like California or elsewhere where men do body building and sent you photos of young studs in tiny g strings flexing their muscles or pucyores of males strip joints and gigilo services ( yes they sure do have them for womenWith some very hot men much younger than you state your age ) How would that make you feel?

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A male reader, WiseOwlE Health And Fitness my-wife-is-giving-me-the-cold-shoulder-after-i-sent-her-touristy-pics-of-women-in-japan-how-do-i-handle-this-2 My wife is giving me the cold shoulder after I sent her touristy pics of women in Japan. How do I handle this? Relationship & Sex     + , writes (24 September 2018):

[EDIT]Correction: “Why would you think your wife would find it funny for you to photograph a massage parlor with scantily clad women?”

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A male reader, WiseOwlE Health And Fitness my-wife-is-giving-me-the-cold-shoulder-after-i-sent-her-touristy-pics-of-women-in-japan-how-do-i-handle-this-2 My wife is giving me the cold shoulder after I sent her touristy pics of women in Japan. How do I handle this? Relationship & Sex     + , writes (24 September 2018):

Here’s your problem:”And as a joke, I photographed a sign for a massage parlour in downtown Tokyo with scantily clad women on it.”All of your subjects are women in your photos. Yes, there were sexual undertones; and you have a weird sense of humor. Why would you think your wife would find it funny for you to photograph and massage parlor with scantily clad women?Did you do something wrong? Duh?!!Yes, and you better bring home lovely flowers, a mouth full of apologies, and something expensive from Tiffany’s or a fine jeweler! Your in big trouble! HUGE!!!

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