I have no idea where to begin I am only hoping you all can offer some advice. So I was with my ex for three years, we were engaged at one point, but I broke it off after our twin babies were born stillborn. We stayed in a relationship we just weren’t engaged. This past summer we broke up for three weeks and he started dating someone else so I saw the picture on snapchat that he posted and I messaged him and we ended up getting back together. He told me the reason why he got with her was to make me angry and that is why he posted the picture to get a reaction. So august 12 we got back together and I was under the assumption that things were heading back to normal. He told me they just talked they were nothing serious and all this stuff and I believed him, I had no reason not to. Three weeks ago tomorrow I called him and she answered the phone where she proceeded to tell me she had been living with him since September first. I never got an explanation from him, instead he blocked me from his phone, I Have no idea if I am still blocked and when I snapchat messaged him he told me told me “ok” and to “leave me alone” so I did, I picked up my life starting going out and posting to snapchat. Since then he has called me 80 times. Blocked me off snapchat, then unblocked me and re-added me and I accepted. Friday, he posted picture of him and her on snapchat and I did not look and then he unfriended me. I do not know what to do..
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A female reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (1 October 2018):
First, OP I’d like to say I’m sorry for your loss of your babies. I hope you have sought some grief counseling for that. If not, maybe that is something to consider.What to do OP?I know you have an emotional connection to this guy but he left this relationship a LONG time ago.The fact that he “dated” someone to get a reaction from you, is low both towards you AND her! Can you imagine being used like he used her?While he might be lashing out due to grief or he is just petty. My advice? Part from grief counseling? BLOCK, DELETE, REMOVE, UNFRIEND him and anyone connected to him whom you don’t talk to in person.While he might still be trying to keep in touch with you because you two shared a lot together, you LETTING him keep winding you up is not going to help you move forward.HE has moved on with someone else. He even KEPT her around while “pretending to reconcile with you. NOT cool. Not to you or her. I find his behavior rather disrespectful.He didn’t post a picture of him and her on snapchat to make you jealous, but to hurt YOU. THAT is not someone I would keep around in my life. It’s immature, disrespectful and quite frankly petty.Let him be and block him from any access to you. Make sure you tighten your Facebook privacy settings etc.Eventually he will get the point that you are moving on whether he likes it or not.Chin up.
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