Need some help please on a family related issue please..
My parents have been alcoholics since I was little and I had a hard upbringing. The only thing that really helped me growing up at home was having my pet dog alongside me (he’s mine since I was young!) and he’s been my best friend ever since. I moved out about 4 years ago now for university and I had to leave him with my parents. I wanted to take him with me so much but I couldn’t as it wasn’t fair as I was out of the house all day. They have recently decided out of the blue that they are moving away. They live at the minute about half an hour away from me and I live in the city. They’re now moving about 2 hours away on the coast of the UK and they don’t want to take him with them as he is way too old and too much work. He is now currently completely blind and deaf and doesn’t know when I’m in the room. I’m worried about taking him to my house where I live in the city and I work full time because again I can’t look after him and give him the attention that he deserves and needs. My parents have 4 other dogs they take care of and I don’t know if my dog is getting the proper care. I don’t know if they can get used to their surroundings once they go completely blind and deaf or really be happy again.I am also worried in case they do take him with them because the 2 hour drive might stress him out to the point where it is unbearable for him and I don’t want to put an old dog under so much pressure. It’s such a hard situation because I am not there to see how he actually is. All I really know is that he has always been pretty skinny but I can feel his ribs easy and he’s still eating but he just sleeps in his bed constantly. My family are moving within a couple of days and a few months ago I was already thinking of taking him to the vets to put him to sleep as I don’t think his quality of life is very good and I don’t want him to suffer but now that it’s come at a time where it’s rushed I don’t want it to ever feel like I’m doing it just out of an easier circumstance with living situations. It’s also difficult because I don’t know if I take him to my house he will get stressed and it will dampen my last few days before I have to take him to the vet if he can’t cope or I should risk it and let him come to stay with me and see if he adjusts and he would get proper care with me but I wouldn’t be able to look after him all the time? Any other pet owners who can help? Thanks in advance everyone!
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A female reader, janniepeg + ♥, writes (29 November 2018):
You mentioned the three options, which are all difficult. Your dog has lived a good life, received a lot of love from you and I am sure whatever your decision is, he will be forever grateful. My first choice would be euthanasia. The vets are very compassionate people. They won’t ever make you feel guilty for making that choice. When you think about putting your animal to sleep, you just “know” and probably had some telepathic communication with your animal, that he’s ready to go. Your dog is still eating but with constant sleeping means he’s already in and out of life. Rather than making separate trips in the future, why not make his transition smooth and easy?
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A female reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (29 November 2018):
Maybe consider contacting a “old dog sanctuary” like https://www.oldies.org.uk/ and see if they can help you out.If not, then you have to consider 2 options, taking him in YOURSELF and give him the best (of the rest of his life) that you CAN provide or have him put down.Personally? I’d take him. He is old and do not require as much as you think. If you parents had him PLUS 5 other dog he probably didn’t get all that much attention there either. Just have to find a routine where you take him out before work and after work, and perhaps even see if a neighbor or friend can stop by for a middle of the day potty break.If it doesn’t work out, then call the sanctuary and if that doesn’t work out… you have to consider what other options you have.
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