A male Health And Fitness she-lied-is-this-a-red-flag-or-is-it-too-early-in-the-relationship-for-me-too-care She lied, is this a red flag or is it too early in the relationship for me too care. Relationship & Sex    age 22-25, anonymous writes:

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I went on a date with a girl, it was great and we’ve been chatting a lot since. She asked to meet me again in a few days. The first date was friday. The second date will be the following tuesday.

However, i have found out she has lied to me about what she did at the weekend.She told me she just stayed at home and rested, but i found out she actually travelled several hours to see another guy. I have no idea if the guy is a friend or more, i’m not really interested in the fact its a guy.I’m not bothered by the lie. If she wants to keep seeing me it is the lie that bothers me not the guy.Is that a major red flag or is it normal to lie in the early stages and maybe i shouldn’t feel i am owed the truth at this stage?

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A male reader, kenny Health And Fitness she-lied-is-this-a-red-flag-or-is-it-too-early-in-the-relationship-for-me-too-care-1 She lied, is this a red flag or is it too early in the relationship for me too care. Relationship & Sex     + , writes (14 November 2018):

Health And Fitness she-lied-is-this-a-red-flag-or-is-it-too-early-in-the-relationship-for-me-too-care She lied, is this a red flag or is it too early in the relationship for me too care. Relationship & Sex    Like some of the other posts mention, i’m intrigued by how you know that she even did this. Im guessing you found out on some sort of post on social media.However you found out is besides the point really, you guy’s have only had one date, so she is quite entitled to go out, even if it is with another guy.I don’t condone lying, a good relationship is built on trust, a relationship without trust is like building a house without digging the foundations, sooner or later its going to fall down.Be a bit lighthearted about it, go on the second date with her, and a third if it materialises. After a few more dates you will soon find out what she is all about. Good luck

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A male reader, Code Warrior Health And Fitness she-lied-is-this-a-red-flag-or-is-it-too-early-in-the-relationship-for-me-too-care-2 She lied, is this a red flag or is it too early in the relationship for me too care. Relationship & Sex     + , writes (14 November 2018):

Health And Fitness she-lied-is-this-a-red-flag-or-is-it-too-early-in-the-relationship-for-me-too-care-1 She lied, is this a red flag or is it too early in the relationship for me too care. Relationship & Sex    You wrote:”I’m not bothered by the lie. If she wants to keep seeing me it is the lie that bothers me…”So you contradicted the 1st sentence with the 2nd. Which is it?IMO, she doesn’t owe you an explanation, nor does she owe you the truth of her weekend plans. You had 1 good date and are scheduled to have another. Nothing more. 1 data point does not constitute a pattern.That being said, if you continue to date after that, and she demonstrates a pattern of lying, then, if it bothers you, you can simply choose to stop dating her. If you chose to stop dating her, IMO, you’d owe her the courtesy of telling her that you’ve decided to stop dating her, but you don’t owe her an explanation of why. If she asked, I’d just tell her that I’m not feeling a connection and I don’t want to lead her on.

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A female reader, Honeypie Health And Fitness she-lied-is-this-a-red-flag-or-is-it-too-early-in-the-relationship-for-me-too-care-2 She lied, is this a red flag or is it too early in the relationship for me too care. Relationship & Sex     + , writes (14 November 2018):

Health And Fitness she-lied-is-this-a-red-flag-or-is-it-too-early-in-the-relationship-for-me-too-care-2 She lied, is this a red flag or is it too early in the relationship for me too care. Relationship & Sex    I’m also curious as to HOW you know she traveled to see another guy.I would not be happy with someone lying to me THAT soon in either. I can, however, understand if she omitted that she went to see someone else. And I agree with Janniepeg that if it IS a guy, it’s not a friend. She would have had no problem mentioning hanging out with friends.So if YOU want to see her again, have that date and mention that you are a one girl at a time kind of guy and would prefer a girl who isn’t seeing multiple people at the same time.Also, it’s still so VERY early on that I don’t really think she OWED you an itinerary of what she is doing in her life when not with you. Saying she has a quiet weekend in might just be because she didn’t feel she knows you well enough to share. Or didn’t want YOU in her business as you are still somewhat of a stranger.I don’t think it’s a major red flag.

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A male reader, N91 Health And Fitness she-lied-is-this-a-red-flag-or-is-it-too-early-in-the-relationship-for-me-too-care-1 She lied, is this a red flag or is it too early in the relationship for me too care. Relationship & Sex     + , writes (14 November 2018):

Health And Fitness 977e3106-6f9b-4a08-abba-678cab1a22f1 She lied, is this a red flag or is it too early in the relationship for me too care. Relationship & Sex    How do you know?If she didn’t tell you then how trustworthy is her source? As janniepeg mentioned if it was another guy then it was more than likely a date and to travel that far for it suggests she’s very keen on whoever it is. I also agree with bringing up that you don’t date multiple people at once and see how she responds. Then decide where to go from there.

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A female reader, janniepeg Health And Fitness she-lied-is-this-a-red-flag-or-is-it-too-early-in-the-relationship-for-me-too-care She lied, is this a red flag or is it too early in the relationship for me too care. Relationship & Sex     + , writes (14 November 2018):

Health And Fitness cc272a9a-5bf5-4456-bf36-166d1a51d4f0 She lied, is this a red flag or is it too early in the relationship for me too care. Relationship & Sex    How do you know she travelled a few hours to see a guy? Weekend has two days. So maybe on Saturday she travelled, on Sunday she rested. She omitted the fact that she saw another guy. I would assume it’s a date because if it’s a friend, it’s no big deal to tell you. If you still want to see her next Tuesday, you can get a better feeling by mentioning that you are the kind of meet one person at the time, and hope that she is too. Get a feel of it by reading her body language when she responses. If she is the person who does circular dating, then it would be wrong for her to tell you she is only seeing you. It’s too much competition amongst other guys if she is willing to travel a few hours just to see one. All you would probably get is the early stage from her.

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