I am a divorced man since 2004. was married for 28 years,3kids,now 7 grandchildren. Met a woman in 2005.I asked her in 2010 if she would be ok signing a prenup. She said she would. Asked her to marry me a short time later. She said yes. When I presented her with the prenup she wouldn’t even read it and said she didn’t want to sign. Said she didn’t want to go through the process of getting a lawyer or spend the money. I offered to pay . she refused. Now she gets mad if I don’t call her my fiance.Even when we have discussed and she said we “didn’t need to get married”. We get along normally but this comes up once in awhile.I have done a lot of things for her (bought her a car,vacation in alaska,europe,niagra falls,etc. I told her I couldn’t afford another divorce as I am retired and 68. she has been married 2x. my divorce cost me 500k.I told her I was not going to call her my fiance if we are not getting married. she says she doesn’t like me calling her my “girlfriend”. I don’t understand her. I love her deeply.
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A male reader, WiseOwlE + ♥, writes (26 September 2018):
If you love her so deeply, why don’t you marry her without a prenuptial-agreement? That’s because you don’t trust her.Why should she trust you? Using-up the best years of her life; while holding her at bay, with the threat of some legal-document. What kind of marriage would it be if you don’t want to leave anything to your spouse?Stop spending your money on her; and see if she stops wanting to be called your fiance.
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A female reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (26 September 2018):
She isn’t your fiance. Because there is no intent on her end to marry. Fiance implies that you are getting married.I think you are being smart in not marrying again without a prenup, you obviously learned from that last one.I would talk to her and TOGETHER come up with a term you can both agree on.My dad has a GF but he is 71 and she is 65 so obviously girlfriend seems the wrong term. So she is his Lady-friend or partner.So find a term, you BOTH can agree on.Be it:better halfdomestic partnersignificant otherpartnerloverdarling…the list goes on. I’m sure that the two of you together can find one you both can agree on.
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