A male Health And Fitness should-i-date-her-even-though-im-intimidated-by-her Should I date her even though I'm intimidated by her? Relationship & Sex    age 30-35, anonymous writes:

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I am talking to someone on a dating site that seemed very keen and has gotten me excited about prospects but I am quite intimidated by her to the point that I think I am putting her off…

She is quite far away but we hit it off chatting away to each other to the point where she was asking if i’d move up her way (in vague jest of course but I felt the hint was there).We then have been chatting every day, sending long messages to other followed by us chatting for a couple of hours on social media to get to know each other.She is a stunning girl to the point where I realise she clearly isn’t going to have trouble getting anyone!As we have spoken to each other she has admitted that she is into ‘bad boys’ and the lists of things she put up included, hot body, confident, cocky, great in bed, but usually an ‘unpleasant person’. This is where i paused to reply….She then followed it with, but I doubt very much you are a bad boy though, which whilst was funny made me question what she wants. She said it was a good thing i’m not a bad boy.Conversation at times drifted towards dirty talk and I think my lack of ‘bad boy’ really shined through! I was incredibly awkward and kept making jokes rather than it leading to what her initial aim would have been. I make no apologies for this as it’s simply not my thing! I’m quite a romantic, emotional guy that loves the idea of taking it slowly and falling in love with someone rather than jumping straight in and seeing where it goes. (not that there’s anything wrong with it if it’s your bag!)So….are we simply incompatible? I know she is talking to lots of other people. Probably getting plenty of dirty talk from ‘bad boys’ 🙂 But I’m really enjoying our chats and I can’t get her out of my head. She is incredibly attractive which is obviously something that is keeping me interested too.Do I admit to myself that we are different people and not compatible or do I go the 3 hour journey to meet her and see how it goes? Her persona seems really fun and pleasant but I am intimidated by the stories of her previous rebellious social life and her friends of a similar nature. Would I just be constantly thinking I wasn’t enough for her as a good boy and that she’d be wanting something a bit more carnal from some smokey eyed, 6-packed Adonis? 🙂 Or should I put that to the back of mind and make the trip. I have noticed myself thinking about her all the time which I know is a dangerous thing so early on! I don’t want to let myself in for a fall but at the same time don’t want to miss an opportunity which almost seems too good to be true!I am not very experienced in relationships which is probably very apparent from me needing to ask for advice 🙂 but all comments are gratefully received!

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A female reader, Honeypie Health And Fitness should-i-date-her-even-though-im-intimidated-by-her-1 Should I date her even though I'm intimidated by her? Relationship & Sex     + , writes (3 October 2018):

Health And Fitness should-i-date-her-even-though-im-intimidated-by-her Should I date her even though I'm intimidated by her? Relationship & Sex    I see quite a few red flags.1. you feel like it’s “almost too good to be true, which means… it probably is.2. she is “selling” herself in a very forward manner and you don’t seem to be entirely comfortable with that.3. she talks a lot of alllllll the “bad boys” he has dated and WHY she dated them… basically she sucked up the “not so great personalities” for hot bodies and great sex, so she sounds rather immature and superficial.4. YOU don’t feel you are compatible from the LITTLE you know her.5. She lives 3 hours away. Which means IF you two hit it off… how will that work out? Are you really looking to get into some kind of LDR? (Long distance Relationship).I get that she is tempting. She is attractive and sexually “aggressive” or perhaps the term forward is better than aggressive…I’d say this, if you really DO want to met her… Suggest you two met up hallways. that way you both have to put your “money” where your mouth is and BOTH put in effort to actually meet up. Make a day out of it and then GO your separate ways after. While is is talking a LOT of sexy stuff… maybe that is just her MO to get men interested. She offers what she THINKS they want. Sex on a plate. Maybe… because she really doesn’t have much else to offer?

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A male reader, WiseOwlE Health And Fitness should-i-date-her-even-though-im-intimidated-by-her-1 Should I date her even though I'm intimidated by her? Relationship & Sex     + , writes (3 October 2018):

[EDIT]:”She’s testing to see how desperate you are, and how far she can abuse you.”Post script:The dirty-talk is to get you heated-up; so you’ll travel a three-hour trip. I recommend you disconnect, delete, and block this one! You’ll be in over your head!

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A male reader, WiseOwlE Health And Fitness should-i-date-her-even-though-im-intimidated-by-her-1 Should I date her even though I'm intimidated by her? Relationship & Sex     + , writes (3 October 2018):

She sounds incompatible, and hinting to you that she’s a psycho. Sarcasm and cockiness, can be crass and annoying. She testing to see how desperate you are, and how far she can abuse you. She’s stuck on herself and looking for worshipers and fans. I say, let it pass!Distance should be a good deterrent! My friend, you’re heading for train-wreck! No, it neither warrants nor justifies a 3-hour journey to see someone you already know to be incompatible!!! You’re not her type anyway!She gave you fair warning; but you may be letting your penis decide. This is where we men get ourselves into a heap of trouble. Following the dick, and not paying attention to red-flags. You shouldn’t have to put on an act or perform for anybody; and when you start doing that, you begin to lose your confidence and self-respect.Don’t act out of character for anybody. It’s phony!!!You’re not a bad-boy, and women who like them are usually not very bright, or mean and nasty themselves. If she’s encouraging a lot of dirty-talk, doesn’t even know you, and hasn’t even met you. She sounds like she’s recruiting “clients.”I think she’s a sex-professional; and she gets her clients off the internet.Don’t be a sucker! You better avoid a lady who tells you she likes bad-boys! Good women don’t characterize themselves in that way. If you’re going to listen to your dick; you’ll be writing DC asking for advice on how to get yourself out of pickle. You’ll probably also have to make a visit to the clinic!Run for the hills! Use your brain! You’re not very experienced in relationships; and she doesn’t fit the description of a woman just looking for romance. I’m not sure where the word “relationship” applies in this situation. Frankly, I don’t think she’s that type of girl!BTW, don’t conduct relationships over text-messaging and social media. You get addicted to it, and you’ll never really know the person on the other end. You’ll fantasize and form unrealistic imaginary portrayals or a “character.” She seems like the type who might encourage that. It’s not safe, nor healthy.

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