A female Health And Fitness weve-been-together-for-5-years-and-my-partner-just-gets-lazier-and-lazier We've been together for 5 years and my partner just gets lazier and lazier Relationship & Sex    age 30-35, anonymous writes:

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Hi I’m in a relationship have been for 5 years now but my partner is getting lazier and lazier by the day he goes to work which is a very easy job I get up on a morning get our 2 kids up get them ready for school do breakfast get myself ready and take them to school pick our youngest up from nursery do dinner tidy up go food shopping go back up the school to pick our other child up bring them home make tea go to work come home do packed lunches and sort uniforms out all he does is bath them and put them to bed and when he has holidays from work he stays in bed till the kids have gone to school I am exhausted and he seems to think he’s doing nothing wrong he does not help in any way he doesn’t help financially that’s all me I buy the kids everything I take them where we they want to go and pay for it all I just don’t know what to do I’m so fed up he’s so messy as well I tidy the house up all day then I come home from work and it’s a mess again pots all over the kitchen that haven’t been washed mess all over the carpet all the time any suggestions what to do sorry for the rant just needed to get it off my chest thank you

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A female reader, followtheblackrabbit Health And Fitness weve-been-together-for-5-years-and-my-partner-just-gets-lazier-and-lazier-1 We've been together for 5 years and my partner just gets lazier and lazier Relationship & Sex     + , writes (26 November 2018):

Health And Fitness weve-been-together-for-5-years-and-my-partner-just-gets-lazier-and-lazier We've been together for 5 years and my partner just gets lazier and lazier Relationship & Sex    Whew! Have you talked to him about an equal share of responsibilities ? For example, putting together a list where both partners agree on which chores they are responsible for and when these should be done. Sometimes one partner assumes that just because the other doesn’t complain about their day-to-day tasks that everything is just fine and they don’t need to do anything further. My husband admitted that had no idea how tough it was being with a baby all day until I started working. Once he stepped into my shoes, he saw things in a different light and we had to come to terms as to how we would our household equally. You’re stressed and understandingly frustrated. When you feel like you can speak calmly, let your partner know that you need more help. Don’t make accusations or nag. “Honey, I appreciate you bathing the kids etc you’re a good father. I have to let you know though that I’m feeling overwhelmed and I’m exhausted, I don’t feel like myself. Can you help me more with x, y, and z?” Be specific as to what you need from him. Don’t just say “I need more help.” There’s absolutely no shame in asking for more assistance. We women are strong but it’s very difficult to “do it all.”

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A female reader, followtheblackrabbit Health And Fitness weve-been-together-for-5-years-and-my-partner-just-gets-lazier-and-lazier-1 We've been together for 5 years and my partner just gets lazier and lazier Relationship & Sex     + , writes (26 November 2018):

Health And Fitness weve-been-together-for-5-years-and-my-partner-just-gets-lazier-and-lazier We've been together for 5 years and my partner just gets lazier and lazier Relationship & Sex    Whew! Have you talked to him about an equal share of responsibilities ? For example, putting together a list where both partners agree on which chores they are responsible for and when these should be done. Sometimes one partner assumes that just because the other doesn’t complain about their day-to-day tasks that everything is just fine and they don’t need to do anything further. My husband admitted that had no idea how tough it was being with a baby all day until I started working. Once he stepped into my shoes, he saw things in a different light and we had to come to terms as to how we would our household equally. You’re stressed and understandingly frustrated. When you feel like you can speak calmly, let your partner know that you need more help. Don’t make accusations or nag. “Honey, I appreciate you bathing the kids etc you’re a good father. I have to let you know though that I’m feeling overwhelmed and I’m exhausted, I don’t feel like myself. Can you help me more with x, y, and z?” Be specific as to what you need from him. Don’t just say “I need more help.” There’s absolutely no shame in asking for more assistance. We women are strong but it’s very difficult to “do it all.”

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