The saying is, it’s not the size of the boat, it’s the motion of the ocean. Well my penis is averaged size, but I’ve come to the conclusion that I don’t know how to use it very well. Does anyone have any advice on how to “use” my penis to make her feel good in PIV sex? I realize every woman is different, but surely there must be some general ideas? I have tried teasing with shallow thrusts, grinding against her clit, and going long and hard. But I feel there is more to it, as I’ve gotten some sort of unpleasant feedback at times that I just don’t use my penis very well. Thanks.
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A female reader, Youcannotbeserious + ♥, writes (24 September 2018):
Every woman is different. What one woman may find a fabulous turn-on and sexy, another may dislike completely. You need to COMMUNICATE. One size does not fit all (no pun intended!). Also remember it is not only your penis which you can use but your hands and your tongue as well. The majority of women find it difficult (if not impossible) to climax from penetrative sex alone. They need added stimulation.Foreplay is very important to most women so spend lots of time on that. Giving sensual massages is also a turn on for many couples. I would suggest a good sex manual for ideas if you do not have any from experience. Lastly, do not make the mistake of thinking women like “porn sex” or “jack rabbit sex”. Most find it a complete turn-off. They are more about sensuality than “grinding away” or “going long and hard”. Just the thought of either of those techniques makes me shudder. I am sure you will figure it out if you take it slowly and TALK to your partner.
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A female reader, Andie’s Thoughts + ♥, writes (23 September 2018):
1) penises are NOT needed for great sex – fingers and mouths do much better for most women2) try things and ASK what feels good3) what works for one may not work for others4) open and honest communication is important for good sex, which is why the best sex is often when in a relationship5) use a vibrator on her clitoris at the same time, if she wants to try it6) make sure you do lots of foreplay
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