I’m probably going to get a lot of flak for asking this question but I’ll go ahead anyway.
I’ve been married for 3 years to a wonderful man. He’s kind, respectful of me, a great husband and a wonderful father to our daughter. She is our world and we dote on her every move. All in all, it’s as close to perfect so I have no complaints as such.However, just out of curiosity, I’m asking the following question.My husband has a younger brother who’s married. While I do not have much interaction with his wife, she is not someone I get along with even in the brief bursts of time that I’ve spent with them. I’m a very matter of fact person and I feel that she’s very conniving even in the smallest of things. Basically you don’t know where you stand with her. She’ll be good to you in front of you and say nasty things behind your back for no reason. They were recently with us for a short holiday. Their son is a year older than my daughter. From what I saw, the boy is not really well cared for. His clothes are not clean, he’s painfully thin, aggressive and doesn’t seem to have the verbal developments of a 3 year old. I genuinely feel bad for him. His parents, on the other hand, can’t seem to get enough of each other. They leave the child to his devices, they don’t care what he’s doing, my brother-in-law is constantly running in circles around his overweight wife who does nothing but sit with her legs up on the chair. They constantly post pictures on social media where they’re draped around each other and the child is nowhere in sight! I really don’t understand their relationship and while I understand that it’s absolutely none of my business, I’m just curious.What is it about women like this, who are seemingly very ordinary, both in looks and nature, that still have their husbands in rapt attention? Do they offer mind-blowing sex? What do their husbands see in them that they can’t seem to get enough of them?
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A female reader, Youcannotbeserious + ♥, writes (1 October 2018):
Isn’t it funny that often it is not the things people say (or write) but the things they OMIT which draw your attention? For instance, I find it striking that, despite your glowing report of your marriage, you never mention that you love your husband or that he loves you, and you conclude with stating you have no complaints “as such”. That does make me wonder what is REALLY going on and why you felt you had to put that out there? Is it possible that you are secretly just a little envious of the attention your sister-in-law receives from her husband, despite being (in your opinion) lazy, overweight and a bad mother? I am not saying you want this attention from HER husband but, perhaps, you wish your own husband would fawn over you a bit more the way your BIL does over his wife? It’s all very well being at the receiving end of “respect” in your marriage, but sometimes something a little “more” would surely be nice?Nobody knows what goes on behind closed doors in other people’s relationships. Perhaps your BIL adores his wife so much that he puts her on a pedestal and runs around after her because he believes she is worth it. Just because she is overweight, or not the sort of mother you believe she should be, does not mean she is any the less worthy of his love than you are of YOUR husband’s love. I wonder what she thinks of YOUR marriage? I may be totally wrong here and, if I am, then please ignore what I say. I am, after all, a stranger who know nothing about you or your family. However, I do find myself wondering why, if your marriage is as wonderful as you state, you are so interested in your brother and sister-in-law’s relationship. If you believe their child is really neglected, perhaps you should discuss the best way to help him with your husband. That aside, I would concentrate on your own happiness and let the others get on with theirs.
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A female reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (1 October 2018):
I think CodeWarrior is right.I don’t think this is for all “plain” women though, it’s combination of these two people.As for what they post on Social Media – I’d like to point out that 90% of it is probably bullshit. Some people ACTUALLY think that if they post these “lovey dovey” pictures every around them will think they are blissfully happy. It’s a FACADE. Some even believe in the carefully crafted image they present to others online, because THAT is what they want.It’s like ALL the women who think Kim Kardashian has the BESTEST body and life ever! When in REALITY her pictures are photoshopped and heavy modified with filters. Because pictures of her with cottage cheese ass and thighs doesn’t “sell” whatever products/clothing she promotes. Her ONLINE persona and life is NOT reality, neither is her “reality show”.I feel sorry for that poor kid.
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A male reader, Code Warrior + ♥, writes (1 October 2018):
It’s not about her. It’s about them. She doesn’t do anything special to keep him around.Individually, they both know that they’re unlikely to find someone willing to put up with their laziness. On the other hand, they don’t want to be alone either, so they don’t dare complain. They both hope that if they don’t complain, they can keep someone around much longer than if they did complain. With other people, they might try a little harder, but ultimately, would wind up alone once their significant other gets tired of their laziness.Then they find each other. BAM! Perfect match! Niether of them complain about the other’s laziness, and neither of them make any effort. They are together because nobody else will have them and they both know it. Sex is a side benefit. They may not be the sexiest people, but they’re both getting laid. In the meantime, their child suffers.Anyway, that’s how I see it. I hope that makes sense to you.
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