A female Health And Fitness why-didnt-he-want-to-come-home-with-me Why didn't he want to come home with me? Relationship & Sex    age 26-29, anonymous writes:

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I’ve been dating this guy for about a month now. He said he likes me and wasn’t seeing anyone else. On our last date, we had a passionate make out and he said that I was beautiful and sexy and really turned him on. In fact, he had to stop himself a few times from kissing just so he wouldn’t get too excited. He actually said something along the lines of how he can’t wait to get intimate and I said not yet and he was totally ok with that and said there is no rush. The next day, he took me to a really nice restaurant and the date was good up until the very end. As he was dropping me off, he said that it was fun but he was tired and was gonna go home. It was only 10pm and I know he stays up really late and it felt like something was off. I asked if he wanted to come up just for a few minutes and he said he needed to go. I live by myself and he’s still living with him family so he’d rather be with his parents who he sees all the time than be with me. He didn’t even kiss me or walk me to my house, he just gave me a hug. I was ready to get sexual with him and he completely rejected me. I don’t understand why he didn’t want to if he thought I was so sexy. He’s 4 years younger than me but I’ve never had this problem with any guy before.

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A female reader, CindyCares Health And Fitness why-didnt-he-want-to-come-home-with-me-1 Why didn't he want to come home with me? Relationship & Sex     + , writes (4 March 2019):

Health And Fitness why-didnt-he-want-to-come-home-with-me Why didn't he want to come home with me? Relationship & Sex    But maybe he was actually tired and needed to go home ! why is that so impossible ? 10 p.m. can be ” only ” 10 pm, or ” already 10 pm ” according to the kind of day one had, which mood and state of health, and what one’s has to do the following day.Anyway, yes it could have been a diplomatic excuse , – very understandable IMO. Just the day before you told him that you want to wait before having sex, – how is he supposed to know that you have already changed your mind ?! He probably assumed that he was still supposed to respect certain boundaries and who can blame him if he was not too anxious to get into another long, drawn out, and, for him, frustrating make out session – he did not want to be tantalized , and have to get all hot and bothered …to no avail ( but ,perhaps, malinconically seeking relief on his own at home ). It’s a bit like when you are on a strict diet, and your friends insist for you to join them at a fancy restaurant. Sure , you could go , and consume your 3 ounces of boiled fish and lettuce with no dressing, while they pig out on yummy high- calories delicacies – but it’s just simpler , easier and less unnerving if you just don’t go .I’d say that yours is a nice problem to have, at least as compared to the many women who post here , complaining about the opposite : men who don’t take them out on dates, do not want to spend time with them socially, go to the movies or dining out or what not ; BUT punctually will pop up AFTER 10 pm for a quick, no fuss hook up.

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A female reader, mystiquek Health And Fitness why-didnt-he-want-to-come-home-with-me Why didn't he want to come home with me? Relationship & Sex     + , writes (4 March 2019):

Health And Fitness why-didnt-he-want-to-come-home-with-me-1 Why didn't he want to come home with me? Relationship & Sex    Mind up your mind OP and stick with it. The poor guy can’t read your mind and maybe he’s trying to be respectful. Say what you mean and mean what you say. Men are usually very straight forward and don’t play the game that women sometimes play where the man is supposed to know what we want or what we are thinking.

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A male reader, WiseOwlE Health And Fitness why-didnt-he-want-to-come-home-with-me Why didn't he want to come home with me? Relationship & Sex     + , writes (4 March 2019):

You’re reading too much into this. You can say not yet; but why can’t he? Not sure if it was even necessary to seek advice about it. Don’t let your ego or vanity get the better of you.How drastically could things change in the span of 24 hours?I mean seriously?!! He wanted to get some sleep!”I’ve never had this problem with any guy before.”Don’t compare him to other guys. Judge him on his own merits.Guys get to say “no” too! You said yourself he was up late the night before, and maybe he was tired.Maybe it isn’t just all about you!

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A male reader, N91 Health And Fitness why-didnt-he-want-to-come-home-with-me-2 Why didn't he want to come home with me? Relationship & Sex     + , writes (3 March 2019):

Health And Fitness why-didnt-he-want-to-come-home-with-me-2 Why didn't he want to come home with me? Relationship & Sex    You told him 24 hours before that moment that you were waiting for sex so it’s extremely contradictory to flip out over this. What’s wrong with him wanting to go home? 10pm is late, he said he was tired. Why should he HAVE to go up to yours and sleep with you because YOU have decided it’s time? Because he didn’t want to now it’s suddenly an issue? Give the guy a break.

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A female reader, Plexi Health And Fitness why-didnt-he-want-to-come-home-with-me-2 Why didn't he want to come home with me? Relationship & Sex     + , writes (3 March 2019):

Health And Fitness 4ddfc765-e974-431f-9fc5-4bcb67622f99 Why didn't he want to come home with me? Relationship & Sex    Could it be that it is because he was raised in a very traditional family…….wait til marriage, etc or perhaps he is highly inexperienced and is not ready to tell/show you that? Get to know him better and you’ll get all your answers!!

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A female reader, Honeypie Health And Fitness why-didnt-he-want-to-come-home-with-me Why didn't he want to come home with me? Relationship & Sex     + , writes (3 March 2019):

Health And Fitness 98df9f73-904a-4dd9-a948-14179b833b87 Why didn't he want to come home with me? Relationship & Sex    I think he is trying to be respectful of you wanting to wait. But a guy can only handle blue-balls for so long and then it might just be EASIER to not go inside with you for a few minutes.I think you are being unreasonable here. You want to wait with sex (which is TOTALLY fine) but then you get him all hot an bothered and pull the breaks and when he the NEXT day doesn’t WANT to come in for a few minutes you act like he is rejecting you. WTF! YOU LITERALLY told him the DAY before: “not yet on the sex” and then get mad when he isn’t all over you? And guess what OP, HE might actually have BEEN tired and wanting to go home and chill.You are playing games with him and he doesn’t know what’s up. That is my guess.

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