A male Health And Fitness why-do-i-get-so-turned-off-after-sexual-contact Why do I get so turned off after sexual contact? Relationship & Sex    age 18-21, anonymous writes:

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I am male and am 21 years old. I’m currently on the dating scene but whenever I’m with someone it seems to be that I am lusting them and after it gets any further I get an immense feeling to be with them sexually, then after any sexual contact is over I get a genuine dissatisfaction about what has just happened (only after it’s over) and get severely turned off both sexually and with the girl I am dating, until I have left it a few days and then I am back to normal. I don’t want to mess girls around with how I feel about them, but is this normal (or is it due to not taking things slower) and will it be resolved when I find the one – because I don’t want her to fall through my fingers. My friends say that I should take things slower with girls and properly date and get to know them first, but I don’t want to be boring and put the brakes on when none of the girls I am dating want things to go slowly. So I’m just wondering if anyone has any advice why I’m feeling like this and could offer any tips – thanks!

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A female reader, Andie’s Thoughts Health And Fitness why-do-i-get-so-turned-off-after-sexual-contact Why do I get so turned off after sexual contact? Relationship & Sex     + , writes (11 September 2018):

Health And Fitness why-do-i-get-so-turned-off-after-sexual-contact Why do I get so turned off after sexual contact? Relationship & Sex    You rush things. Maybe you’re realising that sex is all you’re getting because it’s all you’re offering.1) Lust is normal, but you don’t have to act on it. Learn some self-control. If they throw themselves at you, assume sex is all they want and move on.2) What you describe isn’t dating, it’s casual hook ups. You’re not “on the dating scene”; you’re on the “free sex” scene.3) Having a few sex-free days in a row is normal and healthy; it’s being severely turned off for a few days that’s odd. It could be because the novelty of waiting for sex is over and you remember you’re in the same cycle of pointless sex, rather than actual dating and getting to know someone.The best tip is to wait 2+ months of actual dating before any sexual contact past kissing. You *can* do it; it’s just whether or not you *choose* to. Stop rushing things.

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A male reader, WiseOwlE Health And Fitness why-do-i-get-so-turned-off-after-sexual-contact-1 Why do I get so turned off after sexual contact? Relationship & Sex     + , writes (11 September 2018):

You’re practicing to be a douche-bag. You don’t think above your crotch. You’ve never tapped into your feelings, and that makes you a tool.You focus too much on having sex, and not on the girl.Insecure-girls move too fast, and will throw themselves at you; because they think giving you what you want will make you want them. Those girls aren’t too smart; and are usually the type most likely to get messed-around. Some just want to throw away their virginity and see what sex is like. You seem to prefer that type. They seem disposable.You haven’t practiced being nice to a girl. Romancing her, and making her feel respected. You use them like a blow-up doll, and don’t really get your heart into it.Like your friends tell you. Slow-down, and be nice to them. Resist, even if they try to rush into sex. That’s how some think they can manipulate you; and will lay claims on you. If she gives you sex, consider yourself her boyfriend. She thinks!Use the head up-top. You’ve used the smaller one too much already.

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A female reader, aunt honesty Health And Fitness why-do-i-get-so-turned-off-after-sexual-contact-2 Why do I get so turned off after sexual contact? Relationship & Sex     + , writes (10 September 2018):

Health And Fitness e3c9aedc-6381-4d77-9535-ad1995f73339 Why do I get so turned off after sexual contact? Relationship & Sex    I think your friends are right. You should take your time to get to know a girl. There is nothing wrong in waiting and maybe if you had genuine feelings involved with a girl you would feel differently. You are still young so don’t put pressure on yourself. Just get to know a girl on a much more personal level and let feelings develop.

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