A female Health And Fitness why-do-i-stay-in-touch-with-him-when-i-know-he-has-a-g-f-and-will-only-use-me Why do I stay in touch with him when I know he has a g/f and will only use me? Relationship & Sex    age 41-50, *illamay writes:

The Fat Decimator System

I met a guy years ago and we had sex the first night after meeting which I blame myself for as I had to much to drink and got carried away. I wanted him to wine and dine me when I met him again but he never did and again I blame myself because I was to quick to jump into bed with him and he got what he wanted. I was hoping he would be different but he wasn’t and realised sex is all he wants out of me.fast forward to now, he contacts me by texts to say to meet up for it. the last time I saw him was in June last year. he sent me a text at Christmas to just say happy Christmas, then again on new year then again on valentines day. he as a woman in his life and I know because he as sent me a picture message and it was a place where they done cheap food. it was not meant for me because he as never took me for a meal and he as sent other picture messages when he as been away. he said they were meant for me but I knew he was lying. he did not deny he did not have a woman in his life and I told him he cannot have his cake and eat it, he said ok. why does he still keep in contact when he already as a woman to sleep with. I told him what do I have that she doesn’t. I know I am really stupid for keeping intouch when he is only after using me but I cannot seem to stop myself from doing so and I think I would miss him if he did stop. what’s wrong with me.

View related questions: cheap, christmas, text

<– Rate this Question

Reply to this Question

Share

Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question!

A female reader, anonymous, writes (19 March 2019):

What do you have that she doesn’t? To him you’re easy. It’s that simple. I’m guessing the other woman made him work for sex were as you didn’t.Stop giving yourself up to this loser and move on.

<– Rate this answer

A male reader, WiseOwlE Health And Fitness why-do-i-stay-in-touch-with-him-when-i-know-he-has-a-g-f-and-will-only-use-me-1 Why do I stay in touch with him when I know he has a g/f and will only use me? Relationship & Sex     + , writes (19 March 2019):

Girlfriend, please! Here we go with the old “I just can’t help myself” excuse. Now let me talk some sense into you!You’re fascinated by his detached/aloof bad-boy attitude. You keep saying it’s your fault, each time you invite the loser into your life. You enjoy the sex and the intrigue; knowing he doesn’t give a hoot. If it’s available, he’ll take it. He makes you a naughty-girl!I’m going to go out on a limb here, and do a little mind-reading. You’re hoping he’ll develop feelings for you. Not likely, because he has no respect for you. You’re a side-dish, and you know it. A little nostalgia for old-time’s sake! Remembering when! Please don’t be flattered!The bottom-line is, you’re friends with benefits; and you like his random booty-calls. Then you blame yourself for giving-in; but you admit you know better.Don’t get attached, because you started-off on the wrong foot with this guy. If you knew exactly what he truly thinks, you’d punch him in the face; because it’s not really anything nice. He thinks you’re a pushover. You know this, but you dumb yourself down; because you still figure there’s some chance he’ll come to his senses and fall for you.Not a chance! This game is far beneath your dignity. If you simply enjoy the casual-sex, with no strings attached. Then admit it. You are complicit when he feels like cheating on his girlfriend. Now he’s all the more hot and spicy; because he has a girlfriend, making him forbidden fruit.Stop and think about it. Now you’re being a home-wrecker; because he already has a woman. This mess is beneath you; and it makes him respect you even less. You may think you don’t mind, but it’s a matter of principle. You’re not 25; and far above throwing caution to the wind.He’s on the lower-level, and you’re letting him drag you down-under. It’s not an ego-booster to think he’s cheating on her for you. Truth is, if it wasn’t you; he’d be chasing some other lady who would lie-down for him. Block his number, discontinue contact, and move if you have to! Don’t lower yourself to doing this. Convince yourself you deserve better. You’re not the person you were so many years ago; you’re grown-up, and all the wiser now. You’re dignified, more sophisticated, and time has given you more grace. You should reach for the top-shelf, not the bargain bin! Worse than that, digging through the reject pile! He’s too cheap to wine and dine a lady!Sorry, he can’t turn-back time. Of course you’ve still got it, you’re not old; but you’re not a frisky little college-girl either.

<– Rate this answer

………………………….   

A female reader, ClairM Health And Fitness why-do-i-stay-in-touch-with-him-when-i-know-he-has-a-g-f-and-will-only-use-me Why do I stay in touch with him when I know he has a g/f and will only use me? Relationship & Sex     + , writes (18 March 2019):

Sorry but i find it sad and i don’t mean in a sarcastic way that you are in my age bracket and you are allowing yourself to be used the way you are. I figured men out like this a long long tine ago, WHY on earth would you want to be this man’s bit on the side? He is open that he has a girlfriend to ease his own conscience in that YOU allow him to sleep with him so take the proportion of the blame. I am sorry but you are not something special to him, he can’t keep it in his pants and so he cheats for the extra sex and for him excitement of doing something he shouldn’t.I also learned a long long time ago that it isn’t good to your ego to sleep with another woman’s man, i realised it was sordid and i was cheapening myself, but then i was very young. Come on lady, get your head out of the clouds, he is using you, don’t you think you deserve better?The best relationships are by far one where a man commits to YOU and wants to be with you, sorry but you just can’t beat a loving relationship, you are selling yourself short and i feel sorry for his girlfriend, what an arsehole this man is.

<– Rate this answer

………………………….   

A female reader, Honeypie Health And Fitness why-do-i-stay-in-touch-with-him-when-i-know-he-has-a-g-f-and-will-only-use-me-1 Why do I stay in touch with him when I know he has a g/f and will only use me? Relationship & Sex     + , writes (18 March 2019):

Health And Fitness 98df9f73-904a-4dd9-a948-14179b833b87 Why do I stay in touch with him when I know he has a g/f and will only use me? Relationship & Sex    It’s not about can or can not. It’s about want and want not.YOU DO get something out of keeping in touch with him or you wouldn’t do it.It’s a CHOICE. Not something beyond your control, that is just bullshit you feed yourself to JUSTIFY keeping the line of communication open.YOU want to think that HE keeps in contact because you have something “special” that his partner doesn’t. Something he can’t do with out. And frankly? I think that is NOT the case.What EXACTLY would you miss if you didn’t stay in contact? The CONSTANT reminder that you were “good enough” to have SEX with but not “good enough” to date?The seasonal greetings?The fact that you KNOW he just used you?This is something I’d expect out of a 16 year old girl with LITTLE to no relationship experience. NOT a grown woman.What DO you want for yourself? To ACTUALLY find a guy who would NOT only RESPECT you, TREAT you right and LOVE you?If that is the CASE LET this DEAD-WEIGHT go – block, delete and remove and find a guy who ACTUALLY wants to BE with you. Not just USE you for sex and “entertainment”.Telling a guy that “he cant have his cake and eat it” means absolutely squat to him.Because he has little to not real affection or respect for you. And… little for his partner either. THIS guy is NOT some kind of “prize of a man”. Come on OP, MOVE on with your life. Don’t cling to some guy who ONLY sees you as “entertainment”.

<– Rate this answer

………………………….   

A male reader, N91 Health And Fitness why-do-i-stay-in-touch-with-him-when-i-know-he-has-a-g-f-and-will-only-use-me Why do I stay in touch with him when I know he has a g/f and will only use me? Relationship & Sex     + , writes (18 March 2019):

Health And Fitness 977e3106-6f9b-4a08-abba-678cab1a22f1 Why do I stay in touch with him when I know he has a g/f and will only use me? Relationship & Sex    You don’t have something that she hasn’t or else he would be with you instead. The only think that you offer is no strings attached sex. You know he’s using you but still you stick around. Sounds like you like the drama to be honest as nothing good will come of this situation.Don’t you want your own partner that loves you? Or just someone who wants a quick fuck when he’s bored of his GF? If you’re truly the age range you’ve stated then you should know better. I think it’s time for you to grow up, block him and move on.

<– Rate this answer

………………………….   

The 2 Week Diet