A female Health And Fitness worst-mistake-of-my-life-dont-know-what-to-do Worst mistake of my life!! Don’t know what to do Relationship & Sex    age 22-25, anonymous writes:

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I’m in the worst situation I could ever be in in my life I’ve made the biggest mistake ever and now I don’t know what to do I am suffering badly! I am 14 weeks pregnant but ended up cheating the night before I found out I was pregnant I know how bad this sounds I can’t believe I’m in this situation but no one to blame but myself. I had been talking to an old friend on snapchat catching up now and again for about 3 months, we ended up arranging to go to the gym together one evening as we were both into exercising. After that we ended up chatting abit and one thing lead to another and resulted in 5 mins of disgusting dirty pointless sex. I can not believe how careless I have been as could of seen a + result on a test at least a few days before I found out. Now I feel I have ruined everything ruined what I’ve been waiting for for so long I’ve been with my boyfriend 5 years and have never thought about cheating before and would never do it again! This would shatter his heart into a million pieces and I really do not deserve him. I really am stuck on what to do my heart is saying tell him and my minds all over the place atm. We was going through a very rocky patch basically on the verge of splitting up and also having counselling atm for drug addict mum who I think I will speak to at my next meeting. I thought I was stronger than I was but obviously not. We have already moved to a bigger place and he is being the most perfect boyfriend now I just feel sick and it’s always there. I feel like I’ve betrayed everyone and will be a single mother which I do not want for my unborn child, I need to make this work for my family. Everyone is sooo happy for us I don’t feel that I can do that to him at this moment but how am I meant to live with this and carry on trying to be happy it’s hard! I’m trying not to dwell on it but it’s so hard when we are getting our new home ready for our child. My boyfriend also has a teenage daughter who is under ss and may end up living with us and may end up in dna tests if I tell even thou I know it’s his baby. The other guy has promised not to ever tell anyone he knows it’s a mistake and never happening again he’s also in a relationship with a child. I need to be strong for my child but can I live now he’s talking about mortgages, don’t want to crack in a few years he will instantly leave.. my heart is aching right now someone please give me some advice I already know how disgusting and cheap I am so please be nice. Sorry this is so long but needed to get my story out my baby is the only thing keeping me going right now

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A female reader, Youcannotbeserious Health And Fitness worst-mistake-of-my-life-dont-know-what-to-do Worst mistake of my life!! Don’t know what to do Relationship & Sex     + , writes (11 November 2018):

Health And Fitness worst-mistake-of-my-life-dont-know-what-to-do Worst mistake of my life!! Don’t know what to do Relationship & Sex    First of all, acknowledge and accept NOBODY is perfect. We all make mistakes from time to time. You made a BIG mistake but that does not make you evil or cheap or disgusting. It makes you human and fallible. Stop being so hard on yourself. You have obviously learned from your mistake. Now you need to hold it all together for the sake of your baby. Did you use contraception with the other guy? If there is any chance the baby could be his, you will probably not rest until you have a DNA test done. However, this does not need to involve your boyfriend. Ask your “friend” to take a DNA test. If he is not the father, then your boyfriend obviously is. It it turns out he IS the father, then that bridge will need to be crossed at a later date. Worrying about it will not change anything, except possibly your health. It sounds like the other guy has just as much to lose as you do, so he is unlikely to ever tell anyone about your indiscretion. If it wasn’t for the unfortunate timing of your baby’s conception, you could forget this moment of madness and simply learn from it and move on. In your shoes I would concentrate on staying as healthy as possible for your baby’s sake. This includes trying not to worry or stress too much. When the baby is born, contact the other guy (discretely of course) and suggest a DNA test your peace of mind and his. Hopefully the test will prove your boyfriend is the father. You then need to destroy all evidence of the test so that your boyfriend never finds evidence, draw a line under the whole regrettable episode, learn your lesson and never repeat the same mistake. Good luck. I hope it all works out for you.

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A male reader, WiseOwlE Health And Fitness us Worst mistake of my life!! Don’t know what to do Relationship & Sex     + , writes (11 November 2018):

[EDIT]:Typo corrections:”It’s your boyfriend’s child.” “Your relationship was strained, you’re in counseling, but if you need to relieve yourself by confession; maybe you can set-up a private-session with a counselor.” “Sadly, that means you have to figure it out all on your own.”

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A male reader, WiseOwlE Health And Fitness us Worst mistake of my life!! Don’t know what to do Relationship & Sex     + , writes (11 November 2018):

This one slip, a one-time mistake. It was carelessness, and you set yourself up by chatting with an outsider; while you were working your way through personal-issues. That contact with the so-called friend lead to bad-judgement and vulnerability.This is my advice. Don’t bring it up. Leave it. Bury it. Its your boyfriend’s child. Your relationships was strained, you’re in counseling, but if you need to relieve yourself by confession; maybe you can set-up a private-session with a counselor. If you have faith; this is the best time to talk to the leader of your faith, and connect with your Creator. Pray for help and comfort. When you have no belief-system, you often lose hope with nowhere to turn. Sadly, that means you have to figure it out all on you own. If you do have a spiritual-belief, use it. God forgives all things, mistakes we make that other humans can’t. Then sweetheart, try to forgive yourself.You are very young, and you had a slip in judgement. You know you did something wrong; but in this case, your situation is much too fragile to drop this in the middle of it. You really don’t need this stress, and it wouldn’t do either of you any good to bring this into the situation; to undo all of your progress up to this point. You should have known better, but hindsight is always 20/20. Regret comes too late, always after the mistake. Never is there consideration of the consequences before the deed; but remorse after we make a mess of things. Youthful recklessness.Now you know better!Find a counselor, minister, priest, imam, rabbi, or any one person you trust above anyone else in your life. If you need to get it off your chest; then let them help you. Confide in someone; so you don’t have to blow-up an already delicate and shaky relationship. It’s on the mend, and your guilt is enough punishment. You’re sorry, but never ever be so reckless again!Do not share this with your boyfriend; unless you know that this baby could possibly be another man’s child.You’ve made a mistake, and you should forgive yourself and make amends by being a wonderful mother, stay on track with your drug rehabilitation; and try to work things out in your relationship. We all do things we regret, sometimes terrible things.If nothing else is possible, be a fantastic mother. God bless you, sweetheart!

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